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so frustrated with breast feeding!

Posted by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 2:30 AM
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So, I've been told it's enjoyable, it's a great bonding experience and so on... I've been breast feeding my son since he was born, exactly one month ago and i hate it, he wants to eat all the time and i feel like i never have time for my older daughter because of it. My son won't latch correctly so I have to use a nipple shield... My daughter used to always want me and tonight when i went up to check on her at bed time she didn't want me, she wanted her daddy, which broke my heart, i feel like a bad Mommy to her!! I don't feel like I'm bonding with him any more than i already have... I was hoping to pump and bottle feed but i cant get ahead of him because he eats so much for such s little guy... And I'm taking 6 fenugreek a day

Does anyone have any suggestions?? I'm so very frustrated!
by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 2:30 AM
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britmichele
by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 2:33 AM
In my experience, the nipple shield made things worse. I know some moms love it tho. Can u wear him? Its easier for the feeding. How is your production? Does he nurse on one side per feeding, or both?
frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 2:47 AM

See a lactation consultant.  He is building up the supply for later months. The first 3 months are the hardest.  Have you involved big sister in helping you get a drink/food, a blanket, etc when you are nursing or do you close yourself off in a room?  Why are you taking fenugreek, were you having issues producing milk?

vmom16
by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 3:06 AM
My daughter sits with my while I feed baby, it's when we do our reading, studying, or just watch tv together.
WildLilli
by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 4:00 AM
He originally ripped my nipples up pretty bad, so I'm wearing the shield until they heal, otherwise it's way too painful! , i don't have a sling to wear him and we don't have money to buy one unfortunately
WildLilli
by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 4:09 AM
Quoting frndlyfn:

See a lactation consultant.  He is building up the supply for later months. The first 3 months are the hardest.  Have you involved big sister in helping you get a drink/food, a blanket, etc when you are nursing or do you close yourself off in a room?  Why are you taking fenugreek, were you having issues producing milk?



I was originally taking fenugreek because i didn't feel like he was getting enough milk, i have kept taking it because i was hoping to start getting an extra supply established, which has not been success.

My dd is only 2.5 so she can't really help with to much, she likes to bring him toys our a binky and she really was to feed him a bottle...she doesn't seem to be jealous of her brother, she just doesn't want me because I'm always busy feeding him, he can literally eat for up to an hour then want to do it again an hour later, earlier he drained both sides of my breasts then ate an extra 3oz that i had pumped earlier, he's not a big baby, i just feel like that is a ton of food!

I sit in the living room to feed him so I'm not out of the loop. I know I'm bring ridiculous but i can't help it lol
bellawomen
by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 4:13 AM
How often are your feeding? On both breasts each session or just one?

Is he gaining weight?

Are you continuing to see a lactation consultant?

What are you doing to involve big sister?
WildLilli
by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 4:13 AM
Quoting vmom16:

My daughter sits with my while I feed baby, it's when we do our reading, studying, or just watch tv together.



She will sit with me, we read and watch tv but i used to put her to bed every night, now she throws a fit if i try to put her to bed, I feel like she doesn't love me as much and i know that is illogical, of course she loves me, I'm just hormonal but i still can't curb this feeling!
WildLilli
by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 4:17 AM
Quoting bellawomen:How often are your feeding? On both breasts each session or just one?

Is he gaining weight?

Are you continuing to see a lactation consultant?

What are you doing to involve big sister?


He is definitely gaining weight, he usually eats off one side, takes a twenty minute nap then wants to eat again, so i switch to the other side. He is currently eating every hour or two

I haven't had much luck with the lactation consultants associated with my hospital.

I don't know how to involve her with breastfeeding, i just try to play with her and give her lots of snuggles, whether he's eating at the moment or not... She loves him and doesn't seen to mind that I'm constantly feeding him, so that's good
bellawomen
by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 5:05 AM
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Sweet girl!

I am sorry your haven't had much luck with your hospital's resources. Have you checked out a local La Leche League meeting? I know some of the moms can be militant, but ignore those. They are generally great and you can meet other moms who struggled or needed support and how they worked it out.

I am a very pro-breastfeeding mom, but even I struggled. I was so naive looking back. I thought, I have breasts, I am birthing my baby, he wants milk, I make milk, easy peasy. No. Not at all. I really struggled with latch and sucking as he was born 5 weeks premature and didn't have muscles to nurse effectively.

I know this won't be easy, but do you have a pump? I am talking a GOOD pump like Medela Pump In Style or the likes. If not, get one. You can often get the motors on Craiglist for $75 of cheaper. Make sure you check it out well to ensure its been cleaned. The motor should NEVER touch milk, so its safe to reuse in most cases. WIC offers them for free if you qualify (each WIC office has its own requirements), some insurance companies (maybe all now?) will pay for one if your doctor prescribes one, or you can rent them from hospitals.

Anyway, after he is done eating on one side, pump it for 10 to 20 minutes. You likely won't get anything pumped out, but it will still stimulate your breasts and tell your body you need more.

What I did that worked (suggested by a lactation consultant) was block feeding. It means only feeding off one breast per session. So for example, I would feed on the left now, but in 2 hours feed on the right. I couple mine with pumping. So whatever breast was not being suckled I pumped. It took a LOT of work for a week because it took my body some time to catch up with the double demand, but when it did life was better. It means more feeding for a while until your supply is increased, but for me it was well worth it.
frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 5:36 AM


Quoting WildLilli:

Quoting frndlyfn:

See a lactation consultant.  He is building up the supply for later months. The first 3 months are the hardest.  Have you involved big sister in helping you get a drink/food, a blanket, etc when you are nursing or do you close yourself off in a room?  Why are you taking fenugreek, were you having issues producing milk?



I was originally taking fenugreek because i didn't feel like he was getting enough milk, i have kept taking it because i was hoping to start getting an extra supply established, which has not been success.

My dd is only 2.5 so she can't really help with to much, she likes to bring him toys our a binky and she really was to feed him a bottle...she doesn't seem to be jealous of her brother, she just doesn't want me because I'm always busy feeding him, he can literally eat for up to an hour then want to do it again an hour later, earlier he drained both sides of my breasts then ate an extra 3oz that i had pumped earlier, he's not a big baby, i just feel like that is a ton of food!

I sit in the living room to feed him so I'm not out of the loop. I know I'm bring ridiculous but i can't help it lol

It will get easier I promise .  I am sure dd being in the terrible toddler years does not help.  I only have one child, a dd and around this age she also preferred daddy more for alot of things. Then if Grandpa was here neither mommy or daddy existed LOL.

I would see a lactation specialist since they have ways of figuring out how much he is eating in a session so you know for sure.  We did that with dd since she was not a fast weight gainer.  

Perhaps have dd hold a baby doll which accepts bottles while you feed little brother.  That may add fun as well to multitasking 2 children at same time.

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