Lately my 4 year old won't listen to either of us (mom or dad)... actually, he's never been skilled in the listening department, but now that he's 4 I'm expecting some improvement. I ask him to put on his shoes in the morning and it seems it can't hear me, so I touch his arm and ask again, then he gets side-tracked by something, like a toy or he decides to put on his jacket first. Then after he finished with that, he's forgotten all about putting his shoes on. So I ask him in a, not yelling, but a raised voice, "can you hear me, what did I ask you to do?" ... he will then mumble, "put on my shoes." It seems I have to ask him again and again and again and again to do something. I don't believe he's hard of hearing. And here's the mystery, when I ask him to do something and leave him alone he's just seems to do it.... but it's hit and miss. I'm also trying to get him to respond when I ask him a question, for example.... Me - Can you please turn off the TV? Him - Yes mom... or dad. This is also important when I'm trying to get a important message across... i.e. touching something dangerous or rough play. I just need him to say, yes mom. Just so I know he hears me and understands. I even say to him, "this is where you say, ok mom" after asking him a question. Mom's can you tell me if this is the norm for a four year old... and if not, do you have any suggestions. thx a bunch!