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is 3 kids way harder?

Posted by on Aug. 16, 2013 at 11:03 PM
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My grandma (mom of 4) always told my mom (also mom of 4) that three kids is twice as hard as two because a person only has two hands. Other people say that the 1 to 2 kid transition is the hardest and a third isn't so much harder. 

   To those who are moms of 3 or more, what was adding a third like for you? Also how far apart are your kids? If one loved kids, but didn't want too much chaos would you recommend two or three?

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JTROX
by on Aug. 16, 2013 at 11:10 PM

I only have 2, but my brother has 4.  He said 1-2 was no big deal.  2-3 was the worst, because at that point you realize the kids outnumber the grown-ups.  3-4 no biggie, because you are already outnumbered.

deadlights86
by Member on Aug. 16, 2013 at 11:12 PM
3 wasn't that bad once the littlest became more independent. Now that he's 4 its not bad but trying to find things in packs of 3 or 5 really sucks sometimes.
jlmc
by on Aug. 17, 2013 at 1:03 AM
I only have two but I have my niece often and I love her when we are together it flows well it's great I feel like if I added another of my own it would be fine. Then when she goes home I feel relieved and exhausted lol! I think it's tougher than it looks.
MichaelsCasey
by New Member on Aug. 17, 2013 at 1:14 AM
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I have three. They are 20 months apart each. It was a bigger adjustment for me to go from 2 to 3, rather than when I went from 1 to 2. We have always wanted a big family so we went for number three (admittedly I thought it would take longer to get pregnant.. I got pregnant on the first try!) the first year was pretty exhausting. My youngest is 2.5 now and pretty independent. We are expecting #4 in January. I always joke things got too easy with my 3, so we went for one more.
mommy2lexinmark
by Member on Aug. 17, 2013 at 1:17 AM
not for me....but my 2nd was my absolutely most difficult, soo that could be why
AM-BRAT
by Amber on Aug. 17, 2013 at 1:48 AM
I only have two.

I think anyone with good routine and coping skills can handle 3 or more.

Personally the noise/ chaos level for me would likely be too much...
famiglia_bella
by Member on Aug. 17, 2013 at 1:51 AM

I'd recommend three because my first two were 2 years apart and there was competition and aggravation.  After number three, they focused on "the baby" and it was a.maz.ing.  Each experience is different though, just my 2 cents.  More kids doesn't have to mean chaos.  ;)

GodsAmiga
by Bronze Member on Aug. 17, 2013 at 1:59 AM

I have 3 kids. A 5 year old dd, a 3 year old dd, and a 5 month old ds. :-) I love it! And to be honest we have never really had any difficulty in transitioning. 0-1 was easy. 1-2 was great because the girls were instant best friends. And 2-3 was easy too because the girls just love mothering him. :-) The only tough part was that he had colic and reflux pretty badly the first 3 months but that was it. My second can get really wound up and overwhelm him at times but it's just a matter of telling her to step back and calm down before playing with him. I love having 3 kids! :-)

jojo_star
by Jojo on Aug. 17, 2013 at 8:33 AM

I went from two to four, the oldest three are only a year apart each, and the youngest is two years younger. 

Pnukey
by Bronze Member on Aug. 17, 2013 at 10:13 AM
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Quoting JTROX:

I only have 2, but my brother sister has 4.  SHe said 1-2 was no big deal.  2-3 was the worst, because at that point you realize the kids outnumber the grown-ups.  3-4 no biggie, because you are already outnumbered.

Exactly this, with one minor change.

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