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Anxiety attacks? Help??!! Update! Home from appointment

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I am a young mother I have struggled with my emotions all my life and get real anxious at times and depending on the situation I can get angry or cry.. Well since becoming a mother it has been worse ( go figure lol) it is triggered by her doctors appointments most of the time but I still have other triggers like men am new situations where not comfortable. I'm looking into the possibility of having PTSD from past experiences I do not wish to discuss at this time. I have a therapist I won't see her often since I don't have the money too but I do see her tomorrow so I will talk about this with her but I wanted to ask you Momas first. Does this sound normal?
My daughter has a procedure comming up on the 10 of September she may have to have surgery she does not do well being put under. Today I got very anxious when I found out they want a hearing test done under sedation but it can not be done the same day and time as the other procedure so she has a high chance of being sedated 3 times in two months and I won't beable to have her stay one night over to make sure she is safe because it isn't Policy.. After I got of the phone with the last doctor I had it and broke down I cried and shook until my current bf called and calmed me down by going through our options I've also be having gas and acid reflux all day because of anxiety and it's not getting better because I'm still anxious about tomorrow., if any of this made sense to you does this sound like normal mom jitters or something I should mention?

My post is featured?! Thankyou so much ladies to those who have replied my daughter jut went with her dad and my appointment is at 3:00 today. I am getting very anxious about te appointment and what they will say. I want help but a part of me feels like I'm admitting defeat. I am taking all your ideas into mind I would like to stay away from medication but if it is everyonce in a blue moon thing to help I will give it a try.. Trying yoga sounds like a good thing that I would be interested in and that could help. I woul also like to mention I do keep my calm around my daughter I can usually keep my self together until nap time. Thankyou all again and I will update after my appointment I will try to muster up the curoage to let her know how much anxiety if effecting me.. I do not think I am bi polar but I will leave the diagnosis part up to the therapists and physiatrist. My triggers are my daughters health, men, and my feelings. I always get anxious and anxiety attacks from those things and a weird but helpful thing I do I bake. Any time I feel I'm starting to get anxious I make something lol. Today I have spaghetti in the crock pot! Haha

**** I just got home from the appointment and I'm a bit anxious still trying to calm my nerves. I talked to the therapist and she wants me to take a personality test and then she will send tht to the phsycatrist so I will do that next week
by on Aug. 28, 2013 at 10:45 PM
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mickstinator
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 10:58 AM

I have gone through very similar processes as you. I have always been a little anxious, but it got so much worse after kids. I have never got on medication, but I am hyper-aware of my anxiety and try holistic ways to keep it in check. If I were to feel like it was overwhelming me, I would go to a doc in a heartbeat. My husband is on mood stabilizers (he's bipolar) so I see firsthand the difference proper medication can make in a person who needs it. 

If you feel like you are incapable of handling what are routine parts of life, then it would be good to talk to a doc about it. If it is a momentary insecurity over an isolated incident (like worrying about your daughter being sedated), then I'd say that is pretty normal mom worry. 

Hope you can help yourself ease out of that anxiety. It can be so crippling sometimes. : (

snugglesgd27
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 11:33 AM

so sorry you are going thru this. 

You may want to have all your hormones checked also.  I have horrible anxiety and since having my second child who has some things going on it had gotten worse. 

I went to the Dr and had them check my hormones....both by blood and saliva ( saliva test is way more accurate ) found out both my adrinals and my progestrone was way off.  My adrinals were thru the roof which basically meant my brain never shut off. 

even though you have had anxiety for years, your adrinals could have been off for yours. 

wishing you strength for what is going on with your daughter and for yourself. 

Mom_to_Lincoln
by Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 11:44 AM

No its not normal to have that much anxiety. And I hope your not showing it in front of you dd because you need to be strong and assure her that everything is ok. If she sees that your in fear and having anxiety it will only make her start to fear the same things. If your seeing the doctor tomorrow you need to talk to her/him about this and see about getting on some medications to help ease the anxiety.

MamaSwan001
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 11:52 AM
They have a special test for younger kids much like the new born hearing test. They need her quiet and still to do it.. Two things my daughter isn't lol.. She is two and yes it is alot and the 3 is and endoscopy on the 10th a possible surgery for her stomach and then the hearing test


Quoting aehutmacher:

Wait, a hearing test while sedated? THAT doesn't sound normal. Don't they need her to be awake so that she can respond to noise?

Also, including the sedation for the hearing test, I only counted two times they 'might' put her under. Did I miss the third? Becasuse, I don't know if you mentioned how old she is, but that is a LOT of drugs to be giving a small child.



Anyway, I'm not trying to freak you it more, I'm just confused. But, yes, as a mom, I definitely get anxious way more than I used to. I'd thought about taking meds for it, but decided to just hit the bong instead (JK).

iamcafemom83
by Mariah on Aug. 29, 2013 at 11:55 AM
I think it would be very difficult to hear that so many procedures are needed & it would stress me out to tears, as well.
MamaSwan001
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 11:57 AM
Honestly my daughter is my medication lol I'm always happy and smiling aroun her I still get stressed and anxious but you would never know. So as she goes down for a nap or too her dads house is when I tend to freak


Quoting Mom_to_Lincoln:

No its not normal to have that much anxiety. And I hope your not showing it in front of you dd because you need to be strong and assure her that everything is ok. If she sees that your in fear and having anxiety it will only make her start to fear the same things. If your seeing the doctor tomorrow you need to talk to her/him about this and see about getting on some medications to help ease the anxiety.


LindaClement
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:32 PM

Meditation and hypnosis are both proven to make a tremendous difference to anxiety.

Try Get a Little Headspace for great basic instructions for meditation that takes the woo-woo out of it.

Paul McKenna has some excellent hypnosis cds on all kinds of different topics.

MamaSwan001
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 4:21 PM
Up date in op
countrygirlkat
by Kathleen on Aug. 29, 2013 at 6:59 PM

I am glad she is working with you to find something to help.  Hang in there and good luck. 

21and_Holding
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 8:18 PM

 I would have broken down and cried if I found out they couldn't do both together and she had to be put under more than once....I would have been pissed off too...and I'm pretty mellow.  

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