My husband and I have been married for four years and together for 8. He has a 21 year old from his first marriage and I love her as my own and no children of our own. When ever the topics of kids come up I am told by many people that I do not have kids, being a step parent does not count. I accept that that's a lot of people opinion. Fine, but lately it's been a lot of mommy bullying, and its getting on my last nerve! Nearly on a daily basis it's " You guys have been married for a long time when are you going to have children?" "A step child does not count as yours" " You don't know love like when you have a child of your own flesh" . No matter what the excuse is, it's still not good enough. Why do parents think everyone wants to burst a kid from their loins??? I love my step daughter and I do not want a bio kid.