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I could scream!!!! how would you react????

Posted by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 3:34 PM
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It's exhausting enough to watch your own kids let alone someone else's but worse when it comes to discipline and safety...

Today my DS,whose 5 wanted to play outside with his friend from Kindergarten who also lives in our sprawling apartment complex and is Indian. The kids have played together before and the mother is very nice, we exhanged numbers to be able to get in touch with one another. She lets her DS outside alone which I don't agree with but it's not my business..today it was though.

We met her son outside by the tennis courts with theur scooters and she gave me a wave of aknowledgement from the balcony of her apartment. I told the boys to stay within the courtyard where i could see them especially with my 3 yr old DD in tow. they did fine at first but got increasingly rowdy and the boy kept wheeling off around the corner, then shortly after my son would follow, then me dragging DD. I let them ride along the sidewalk with me around the complex and the boy again wheeled off. I warmed we would leave and even tried calling his mom to see if she would come out too but got no response.

soon another boy came out of a different apartment who was apparantly friends with the other one and he too grabbed a scooter and together the mehem began! They repeatedly wheeled into the parking lot, were ducking under parked vehicles and running off while i tried to maintain control of my two kids, more often than not DS tagged along behind them and DD was trying to run off another way or was actually behaving and i had to disrupt that to catch the boys...the final straw was that they yet again ran too far ahead and up the slope to the main road which is a 3 lane road, very busy and has a busy intersection. there is a small gate but room around and the 2 boys were standing right on the edge of the road!!! DS was a few paces behind. I yelled at the top of my lungs and the boys looked shocked that i would discipline them, i had them sit on the grass by me as i repeatedly called his mom, again with no answer. Each apartment building has seperate main doors i live in a seperate building so my key wouldnt work, there was no way into the building to get to their apartement and with her not answering my 10 calls  i called the main office. they were able to get me the dad's number and reached him as well. i ended up escorting the 2nd boy home ( he lives in a townhouse with its own door) and spoke to his mom and took my son's "friend' hoem with me and told his dad where he was. Eventually his mom did show up and tried denying hearing the buzzer...having been buzzed before i know a tornado couldnt distract from that sound! and that her phone was in another rooom so she didnt hear it. I just said i didnt want him to be harmed but i'll admit im pretty turned off from that friendship...

would you have done the same? why or why not

25 year old SAHM of two beautiful babies, Aiden july 5, 2008 & Sophia April 6 2010!




 

by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 3:34 PM
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Brycensmommy85
by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 3:37 PM
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I think you did the right thing some people would of just left those kids figuring well they're not my kids! I'd also make it very clear to the mom that you are not her son's mother she is and if she needs a babysitter she should hire one. Letting a 5 yr old outside like that alone is dangerous it's not like it's her backyard with a fence it is an apartment complex.

frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on Sep. 18, 2013 at 3:39 PM

Yes I would have.    DD was friends with a child a year younger whom did not follow the boundaries that her mom set up for her playing outside.   I called mom the one day since the child was actually getting too close to road and was out of the boundaries 3x times.   I even saw this child enter an empty apartment which is dangerous since you do not know if someone is hiding out there.  Our maintenance keeps the empty apartments unlocked for some reason.

OliviaW.
by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 3:44 PM
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Can't say I blame you and I would have done the same thing.
ingrid198
by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 3:45 PM

 thanks, my husband said he would have but i couldn't in good concious, god forbid they got hurt i know it's not my responsibility but i would want someone to look after my son if he got out of my sight...i would never let him out alone though especially not at 5! i think we will have to talk or just not play together unless she is present too. its a different culture though they all run amuck and the moms just open the door but it is not a backyard, even still i couldnt let let go without supervision..you just never know.

Quoting Brycensmommy85:

I think you did the right thing some people would of just left those kids figuring well they're not my kids! I'd also make it very clear to the mom that you are not her son's mother she is and if she needs a babysitter she should hire one. Letting a 5 yr old outside like that alone is dangerous it's not like it's her backyard with a fence it is an apartment complex.

 

25 year old SAHM of two beautiful babies, Aiden july 5, 2008 & Sophia April 6 2010!




 

ingrid198
by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 3:46 PM

 oh wow, that is dangerous, I can't believe they would leave them unlocked but still the child should listen to boundaries

Quoting frndlyfn:o

Yes I would have.    DD was friends with a child a year younger whom did not follow the boundaries that her mom set up for her playing outside.   I called mom the one day since the child was actually getting too close to road and was out of the boundaries 3x times.   I even saw this child enter an empty apartment which is dangerous since you do not know if someone is hiding out there.  Our maintenance keeps the empty apartments unlocked for some reason.

 

25 year old SAHM of two beautiful babies, Aiden july 5, 2008 & Sophia April 6 2010!




 

ingrid198
by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 3:50 PM

 He was outside alone last night at 6:30 i was cooking dinner and he rapped on my window and was trying to coax my son outside. When i ased where his mom was he just bluntly said" at home" like nothing..their apartment is a good 350 feet atleast from our place and across a parking lot. I kept thinking how many tenants were coming home from work and here he is on a scooter at twlilight crossing alone....

He also said I should let me son outside alone cuz he would take care of him...that wasnt good enough for me.

So i let him and tried calling his mom..she didnt respond...and he made himself comfortable even while i was serving dinner. his mom finally came for him but my dh was like seriously??

sharon6345
by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 4:07 PM

Your did very well in that situation. my nerves would have been wrecked by the time she got to me. I would have told her off.. so your very good.. 

ingrid198
by on Sep. 18, 2013 at 5:25 PM

 thanks, it was not easy haha

Quoting sharon6345:

Your did very well in that situation. my nerves would have been wrecked by the time she got to me. I would have told her off.. so your very good.. 

 

25 year old SAHM of two beautiful babies, Aiden july 5, 2008 & Sophia April 6 2010!




 

GreenDotsOrange
by Member on Sep. 18, 2013 at 5:34 PM
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You definitely did the right thing. I had my mil watch 3 yr old ds one day while dh and I went to a doctors appt. She was also watching her boyfriends grand kids who are 3 and 5. We went to pick him up and they were all playing out front by themselves! Apparently her and the bf were checking out the window every now and then. I was livid! I told my dh never again will she watch him. We have a fenced in backyard on a quiet street and I still don't let ds play outside by himself. All ot takes is him unlatching the gate or a stranger coming up and kidnapping him.
strictmomhere
by Platinum Member on Sep. 18, 2013 at 5:36 PM
I agree with u:)
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