My one and only daughter started kindergaten and I think she is handling the change better than I am. I'm alone for most of the day for the first time and turning 40 in a couple of days so naturally, I'm freaking out.
I resolved to enjoy my bday and didn't wait for anyone else to plan anything for me. I planned a big dinner for family. Three days before celebration (this Saturday), I get a frantic message on all my devices from a brother in-law who lives out of town, saying he's flying in to town with his new girlfriend for one night. He said, 'I know you're having a b-day dinner but I want to surprise my brothers with a visit from me. Can you coordinate it?' I did not know how to respond. Grudgingly, I said he can join us for dinner and gave him time and place and that I just won't say he's joining us. His reply. "Great, can you come up with an entrance for me? I don't want to just walk in." Nowhere in this convo did he say happy bday and thanks for letting us crash your party at such short notice.
Is he clueless? It's my b-day, he's asking me to coordinate a surprise for somebody else, on my b-day, at my party, and HE is THE SURPRISE? I replied via joke saying I will be officially old in three days and I am playing the It's-my-birthday-and-I'm-the-queen card so I'm not planning to do anything, not even my dishes. There's a reply in my inbox I have not opened. What do you think? I can't be mean; we will be around each other every holiday. I think my reply was friendly enough.
Meanwhile, I'm sinking into near-depression and my five-year-old is consoling me. I'm going crazy with these motherhood changes. I don't want to deal with this. Arrrgh.