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Like input on dealing with an autistic child

Posted by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 11:40 PM
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Hi, I am new to taking care if a child with autism. I really could use some insight. I have been able to deal with a lot of different things that came up well until this afternoon. How do you get a child to understand that it is not correct to pull down your clothes and play with your private area. I am talking about a boy. I have three young girls who have not seen a boys penis. I want to keep it that way for a very long time. I do not want to make him feel bad but I can not allow this behavior in my home. Am I in over my head?
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Mamamanic
by Gold Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 11:45 PM

"Those are private parts, we keep them covered and private" actually a lot of boys that age do this, I work in preschool. Make him stay in the bathroom (private area) which is a private area if he does not get it, it could be any place that is private really. Also escort him to the bathroom everytime he does it again. I'm sure he won't want to be there all the time and it will stop. 

Mamamanic
by Gold Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 11:46 PM

Also tell him " Bathroom is where we take private parts out"

Mamamanic
by Gold Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 11:48 PM

Also try " You have potty germs on your hands and need to wash them now". He will not want to keep washing his hands all day. 

This one also works for thumb sucking

Hopejoypeace
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 11:51 PM
Thanks, I have done that
He is seven years old and because he is autistic I am wondering if it is getting through
He has also exposed himself to kids at school.


Quoting Mamamanic:

Also tell him " Bathroom is where we take private parts out"


Hopejoypeace
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 11:54 PM
That is good to know about thumb sucking because my two youngest girls so that
The hand washing won't work for him he likes water a lot he flooded the upstairs bathroom last week while I was in the down stairs bathroom that was a mess water came through the ceiling from it


Quoting Mamamanic:

Also try " You have potty germs on your hands and need to wash them now". He will not want to keep washing his hands all day. 

This one also works for thumb sucking


Mamamanic
by Gold Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 11:55 PM

It sounds like he needs to just be escourted to another room then.  How long have you been with him and his family?? What do they suggest???

Mamamanic
by Gold Member on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:03 AM

Some of them are drawn to water. We have an adult volunteer who plays in the bathroom like that. I've only worked preschool special ed and not directly in the autistic room. He might also enjoy stiring things up and doing it for the reaction (ignore and remove him), but if it is just a feeling thing he enjoys. Try to get something that is as equally enjoying. Like a sensory thing like playdough, or water in a contained area like a water table or a large shallow tub on the floor where it can be easily mopped up.

You might be able to just replace it with another behavior and talk to your dd's and tell them that he does this thing which is unappropriate and if he is doing it they need to turn their eyes and tell mom he is doing it right away.  

Quoting Hopejoypeace:

That is good to know about thumb sucking because my two youngest girls so that
The hand washing won't work for him he likes water a lot he flooded the upstairs bathroom last week while I was in the down stairs bathroom that was a mess water came through the ceiling from it


Quoting Mamamanic:

Also try " You have potty germs on your hands and need to wash them now". He will not want to keep washing his hands all day. 

This one also works for thumb sucking



Mamamanic
by Gold Member on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:05 AM

His parents and teachers should know what his sensory vices are. Some children just like brushing their arms with soft brushes. 

Hopejoypeace
by on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:11 AM
He has been in our home for 9 weeks. We have not had an issue with this until a few days ago.
I talked with his mom this evening about what happened today. She was in surprised he did that then her next reaction was he has to be seeing someone so that because it was not a behavior issue before. I think he has curious. It has not been that long since he is completely potty trained. He has made a lot of progress living in our home and we love him like he was one of our own but I know that I have to remember my first priority are the kids that are biologically mine but I do not feel any different about him in my own eyes. My husband sees him as just a kid we are taking care of. He does love and care about him but his thing is and will only be to make sure our kids are not being exposed to things and I understand that
Hopejoypeace
by on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:14 AM
I have asked about the sensory thing
I do not know much about it and have not gotten any answers on it.
What are sensory
I have kids and never felt with that before


Quoting Mamamanic:

His parents and teachers should know what his sensory vices are. Some children just like brushing their arms with soft brushes. 


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