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Welfare child support and more

Posted by on Oct. 7, 2013 at 12:40 AM
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Hello, 

Received a  letter today saying I had  an appointment with the da office. Here's the story. My friend has his daughter living with him mon thru fir and mom on weekends. This was a mutual agreement. We'll he received a letter cause apparently she has been receiveing welfare. If he can prove she's been with him will he be required to pay, and what if she decides this is no longer the best thing for their daughter?

by on Oct. 7, 2013 at 12:40 AM
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Ilovemybbgrl
by on Oct. 7, 2013 at 12:43 AM
No because she is frauding the system
Flobrooks
by on Oct. 7, 2013 at 12:57 AM

He will if it was court ordered, should have gone back for an adjustment when the daughter moved in.  Also Mom may have to repay welfare she received for a child she was not supporting, child support is to be spent on the child whether from the Dad or from us, the taxpayers.  The "friend" may loose custody, moving in his girlfriend who he was not married to was not smart, it put an impressionable child in an immoral living situation, not the best unless the Mom also has a boy toy. By the way, this came up because women always try to get at the other woman, in this case you.  She is ticked because you moved in with her husband.

a_and_j_momma
by Gold Member on Oct. 7, 2013 at 1:00 AM
Why doesn't he go to court to get a visitation order
mamap81
by New Member on Oct. 7, 2013 at 1:21 AM

We don't live together... There is no child support set.  His daughter has Been living with him almost a year.. Mom appears to have been recieving support from welfare for a,most a year

SissyAnn141
by on Oct. 7, 2013 at 2:11 AM

 

Quoting a_and_j_momma:

Why doesn't he go to court to get a visitation order

 

         They need to go to court, and have JOINT CUSTODY.

            That way no one--- owes no-one.

CampClan
by Bronze Member on Oct. 7, 2013 at 6:32 AM

Visitation & support don't go hand in hand. The friend needs to file for his rights & get a CO stating when he has the child & when mom has the child. Mom will not be able to deny him visits if he ever becomes behind in payments. And just because he is paying does not mean he has rights to the child. The ONLY way to get rights to the child is for him to file with the courts.


Bluecalm
by Member on Oct. 7, 2013 at 8:40 AM
Why do YOU have an appointment with the DA?
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Mommy2justone
by Mommy2justtwo on Oct. 7, 2013 at 11:00 AM

That would be fraud.

Tckosdk.2012
by Bronze Member on Oct. 7, 2013 at 11:57 AM

He needs to contact the welfare office & tell them his dd lives with him full time & not the mom. Otherwise he will have to pay for the welfare that mom is collecting. As long as he can prove that she lives with him full time he can actually collect benefits for her & not the mother.

mamap81
by New Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 11:05 AM

 

he has an appointment because bm decided she needed welfare, and he now has to go and prove that his daughter has been living with him. We printed out all the forms and such and he is going to go get this arrangement that they have had now for a year put into a court order.

 

I wonder if this will be hard, considering he is going to try and get a judgment before they go to mediation so that she doesnt have the opportunity to make changes with while he waits for mediation

Quoting Bluecalm:

Why do YOU have an appointment with the DA?


 

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