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9mo Has Low Communication Skills

Posted by on Oct. 26, 2013 at 12:54 PM
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We went for my daughter's 9mo check up yesterday and found out that she hasn't mastered a lot of the communication benchmarks that she should have by now. She coos, laughs, blows air out of her mouth (to make a "spitting" sound) and screams/shrieks (when really excited) but she hasn't even started trying to say "lala", "dada" or put any similar syllables together. I had her at 34 weeks but she was healthy enough that she never had to be in the NICU and was treated like a full term newborn. Aside from sitting up on her own a little late (around 8mo) she's developed just fine. Does anybody have suggestions as far as activities I can do with her to help her speech develop? I'm a SAHM, so she is talked to and read to a good bit. Everything else about her is fine so the doctor said to try and work on it for about a month and if she doesn't progress then we'll have to go to a specialist.

Edit** As part of the communication skills, she also doesn't "share". She doesn't hand toys back and forth to someone or offer a toy to you. She's an only child. She will converse with you on occasion but it's only through coos or excited screams.
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by Gold Member on Oct. 26, 2013 at 1:19 PM
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 This might sound silly but one thing I did was got 3 really big "first words" books and I read all of them to my dd every single day for like at least 3 months.  I would say the word as I was pointing to the picture.  After a while I would say the word, point to it, and ask her to repeat it starting with easier one syllable words.  She was saying 3 word sentences by 18 months.  :-)  Now at 4 she never stops talking.  lol

icn_mom
by on Oct. 26, 2013 at 1:20 PM
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Good luck mama. I personally wouldnt try and get too worried about it. 9 months old is very young to expet too much comunication from the kiddo. I would say to almost over talk.. like stress the sounds you are making. do some oral play (vibrating toothbrush works GREAT to get the little tounge moving!) do alot of role playing (like when you have a friend over or daddy is home) play turn taking game in front of and with her. if she doesnt hand the ball over say ok mamas turn. put your hand out and gently take the ball and give it back.. :)
atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Oct. 26, 2013 at 1:31 PM
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Expect to be 6 weeks behind other babies. Doesn't sound too behind. Keep watching and talk things with the doctor at the year check up.
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SamMom912
by Silver Member on Oct. 26, 2013 at 2:01 PM
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Keep talking with her... Make sure she gets foods that are building oral motor awareness and jaw muscle. Id maybe just read to her alot,show her simple pictures of things in books, pointing at them, saying their names. Ask her to point to the car when there is a car in the book.. Just keep trying to build reciprocity.  Even at the grocery store, talk to her. Point out that your buying oranges, show her the orange.. There are so many teachable moments thru the day. You sound very involved with her and that is great! She will get there! :)  

I dont think that she is behind, remember kids do stuff at their own times within reason. Sh may be building a diffeent skill set right now.. She will get there.. Just focus on having fun, following her lead and enjoying your time together!  

SMSands
by on Oct. 26, 2013 at 2:06 PM
Thanks for the ideas!! I thought 9mos was a little young to be expecting her to make "words" too, but since the doctor seemed concerned it kind of made me concerned.


Quoting icn_mom:

Good luck mama. I personally wouldnt try and get too worried about it. 9 months old is very young to expet too much comunication from the kiddo. I would say to almost over talk.. like stress the sounds you are making. do some oral play (vibrating toothbrush works GREAT to get the little tounge moving!) do alot of role playing (like when you have a friend over or daddy is home) play turn taking game in front of and with her. if she doesnt hand the ball over say ok mamas turn. put your hand out and gently take the ball and give it back.. :)

emmy526
by Silver Member on Oct. 26, 2013 at 2:08 PM
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your dr sounds like a quack and you should get another opinion...NO 9mo is going to 'share'

atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Oct. 26, 2013 at 2:13 PM
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She means passing toys back and forth to mom and dad and handing them things.


Quoting emmy526:

your dr sounds like a quack and you should get another opinion...NO 9mo is going to 'share'


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emarin77
by Bronze Member on Oct. 26, 2013 at 5:07 PM

Your doctor is right and follow his directions.  I would also do exercises with her to move her arm and give toys to you.  After the month and she is not progressing have her evaluated.

woodswalker
by Bronze Member on Oct. 26, 2013 at 6:34 PM
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I wouldnt worry too much yet either.   Sounds like she's just a lttle delayed because she's actually really only 7 and half months old.  

SewingMamaLele
by Bronze Member on Oct. 26, 2013 at 6:46 PM
Yea, i wouldn't be worried at all... Kids all develop differently!
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