I have two beautiful toddlers, my son is 3 and my daughter is 2, that I would do just about anything for. They are energetic and curious little things that have the attitude of a teenager. I love them deeply and usually they are the most wonderful people to be around. But in the last 3 months things seem to have changed a lot with them.
Due to being laid off from my job we had to move back in with my parents because my husbands pay could not pay all the bills, and since then things have been changing with my toddlers. They have become extremely out of control. I am not saying that in exageration. It has gotten to the point that I am embaressed to take them out in public because of the way that they behave, and at home. Well their behavior is enough to send me to tears.
They are constantly fighting with one another, breaking things, yelling, screaming. Basically doing whatever they want whenever they want. My son is really bad about walking up to me out of the blue and smacking me in the face, pinching me, or biting me. Just today I was cleaning my room and he walked in and threw a hard plastic toy at my head.
My daughter is in the mind set that she can do whatever she wants and no matter how many times I tell her no, or take it away from her she goes back and gets it. Then their language. Oh my god! They have a vocabulary that would make a sailor blush!
I am at wits end, with no idea what to do. When I try to take control back, to correct them and set in place some sort of structure my husband goes all psycho on me about it. He says that they are simply toddlers, and that sending them to their room, putting them in time out, or taking things from them is not right, When I try to talk to them about their behavior my husban tells me that I am being mean. When in reality I am not being mean. I am just trying to raise toddlers that respect the people around them.
I am worried that by the time they are 16 they are going to be so out of control that there is nothing anyone can do to help them. At this point I have no solutions on how to get them to behave, and would really like some advice.
What would you do in a situation like ths?