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Whose responsibility is it to watch and correct visiting children in your house?

Posted by on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:02 AM
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When you have children and at least one of their parents at your house, are you supposed to take charge of them and tell them to stop doing something? Or is the parent supposed to do this?  Sometimes I feel that the parent thinks they are on a vacation when they come here and let their child run crazy.

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emilysmom8
by Dawn on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:04 AM
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The parents SHOULD correct their own child but if someone is in my house and they are doing something that can cause someone to get hurt or something to break and the parent isnt saying anything I will ask them to stop doing what they are doimg
Bmat
by Barb on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:05 AM

This would be my first thought also, but should I ask the parent to have the child stop that?

Quoting emilysmom8:

The parents SHOULD correct their own child but if someone is in my house and they are doing something that can cause someone to get hurt or something to break and the parent isnt saying anything I will ask them to stop doing what they are doimg


jennkrzyz
by on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:08 AM
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My problem is I don't have kids, but I'm friends with women I babysit for. So their parents are over for a social visit. Do I correct the kids as I would while babysitting or just stay in a social setting with their mom?
Sorry to tag onto your question? I've thought about this before too.
Paigesmommy78
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:09 AM
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Parents should the correcting but if they don't notice I will do it
cupcake_mom
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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It takes a village to raise a kid. If i see it first then i correct them. If some other adults sees it then they do. If the parent sees it is they do.But if your friends are acting like this call them out. That's what i do
Sister_Someone
by on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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I do not volunteer to watch other people's kids, in my home or at any other place. You brought your brats you watch 'em, else you're both getting kicked out of my home.

cupcake_mom
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:11 AM
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Both.

Quoting jennkrzyz:

My problem is I don't have kids, but I'm friends with women I babysit for. So their parents are over for a social visit. Do I correct the kids as I would while babysitting or just stay in a social setting with their mom?

Sorry to tag onto your question? I've thought about this before too.
emilysmom8
by Dawn on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:12 AM
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Honestly Ive never asked the parent first but Ive never really 'yelled" at a kid, I most just look at the kid and say 'Sam please dont do that you can hurt Joe by doing that" or "hey Alice please dont throw tje ball in the house I dont want anything to be broke" and no one (including parents) have ever got mad at me for correcting their kid

Quoting Bmat:

This would be my first thought also, but should I ask the parent to have the child stop that?

Quoting emilysmom8:

The parents SHOULD correct their own child but if someone is in my house and they are doing something that can cause someone to get hurt or something to break and the parent isnt saying anything I will ask them to stop doing what they are doimg


aidyns_mommy
by on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:13 AM
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I always tell people when we go somewhere (more when ds was younger) too correct him. I of course would still parent and didn't ever feel lliked I was on a vacation. He just responded better to whom ever we were visiting because he knew it was their house.
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Bmat
by Barb on Nov. 17, 2013 at 9:13 AM

I'm glad you wrote your question. It fits in well with this topic. :)   I guess in your case I'd still go through the parents. The social setting would take preference over the babysitting, I think. 

Quoting jennkrzyz:

My problem is I don't have kids, but I'm friends with women I babysit for. So their parents are over for a social visit. Do I correct the kids as I would while babysitting or just stay in a social setting with their mom?
Sorry to tag onto your question? I've thought about this before too.


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