Okay here's the situation. Every year my husband and I host Thanksgiving at our house and my side of the family comes over. About a month ago, there had been some hurtful words said during an argument in which the whole family got involved in so now everyone is doing their own thing for Thanksgiving. My husband, kids and I will be having our first Thanksgiving dinner without having all the family over besides my Mom. She is going to make her rounds to our house and to my brother's house. I am wondering how to explain to my kids as to why our tradition is changing this year. They are not aware of what is really going on and I was planning on telling them that we are starting our own tradition. I noticed that before when we tried to take the kids out of town for Easter to my aunt's. My daughter was almost in tears and said that she wanted to do have dinner and do what we normally do with having everybody over. She is nine. I guess I'm asking for advice on what will be the best way to explain to her and my other kids that we are starting our own tradition without her getting upset about it.