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Masturbating?

Posted by on Dec. 3, 2013 at 11:11 PM
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Hi! I am a mom of one child who is nine and a girl. Now I masturbate probably twice a week. Well I attempt to... My husband and I don't have sex and haven't for years, so I masturbate. The problem is I always get caught or interrupted and have to stop constantly. I masturbate whenever I get a chance at home basically. Sometimes I do it at night when everyone else is asleep, sometimes in the shower, sometimes in the bathroom. I have been caught masturbating by my husband who had a disapproving look when he did, and my little daughter has seen me naked and masturbating and I feel so sorry for her, like I ruined her innocence. If I am in the bathroom masturbating, someone knocks and tells me to hurry up, or if I am doing it at night, my daughter comes in to wake me up and sleep in my bed, or if I am in the shower my husband tells me not to use all the hot water. I can never find time to relax and pleasure myself and take care of my womanly needs. As a result of this I am constantly thinking about masturbating, at work or home, whatever I do. What am I supposed to do if I can't even masturbate in my own house? How can I stop myself from getting interrupted when I am making love to myself and having special time? If anyone else has been interrupted while pleasuring yourself, you know what I am talking about. Please help me figure out a way to feel my lady parts in peace for once! Thank you! :)
by on Dec. 3, 2013 at 11:11 PM
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JTE11
by Bronze Member on Dec. 3, 2013 at 11:22 PM

Well...I would say that every mom needs some private time, time to yourself, time away from everyone else. You don't have to focus on the masturbation part but maybe talk to your DH and let him know you are feeling stressed and you would be so much happier if you could get some private time, maybe twice per week, where you go and have a bath, or go and sit in your room, where nobody is allowed to disturb you (unless there is a real emergency, of course). Ask for a half hour, or even an hour if you can get him to agree to it. I don't think that's asking too much. Be willing to offer him the same in return. And then when you find yourself alone you can do what you want, rest, read, or in your case masturbate. Seriously, moms need time to themselves and what you do during that time is your own business. I take 'me time' one weekend morning where I sleep in. That's my refresher, just not having to get up when DD gets me up, and DH takes over all kid responsibilities that morning so I get a break. It's not as exciting as what you're looking for, lol, but it's what I need. Hope you can figure out how to get what you need. Good luck.

atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Dec. 3, 2013 at 11:25 PM
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Lock your door.
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hollyann85
by Member on Dec. 3, 2013 at 11:39 PM

This may be a TMI question but am I to assume you have to penetrate in order to masterbate? Sorry, I'm an over the clothes girl and can get off easy.

betterthenmymom
by on Dec. 3, 2013 at 11:50 PM
Lock the door! If your doors don't lock spend $15 on a knob that does and go to town.
MommyF07
by on Dec. 4, 2013 at 12:19 AM
The reason I do not lock my door is because at night I want to make sure my daughter is okay (she has special needs) and in the bathroom I get interrupted as well as in the shower but I lock the doors I just get interrupted.. Also to hollyann85 yes I like to use a dildo to penetrate to feel "full" I guess is the word but I rub my clit mostly. And JTE11 good idea I might try it! Thanks
Momofmenagerie
by Bronze Member on Dec. 4, 2013 at 12:31 AM
Teach dd to knock. Even a special needs child can do that. ( I'm really not trying to be callous)
As far as your husband's disapproving looks. Hey,he's not doing his husbandly duties and don 't think he's not watching porn late at night!

Quoting MommyF07: The reason I do not lock my door is because at night I want to make sure my daughter is okay (she has special needs) and in the bathroom I get interrupted as well as in the shower but I lock the doors I just get interrupted.. Also to hollyann85 yes I like to use a dildo to penetrate to feel "full" I guess is the word but I rub my clit mostly. And JTE11 good idea I might try it! Thanks
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