I gave birth to our 4th baby boy November 30th. Tonight I received this facebook message from my husband's aunt:
"Please don't take this the wrong way. I love you, love (husband's name omitted) and love your parents, but I have had years and years and years of infertility ending with a hysterectomy and removal of my ovaries. Frankly, I cannot stand to see pregnant pictures of you, see ultrasound pictures or pictures of your constantly growing family...it hurts too much. I frankly resent almost to the point of hatred your announcements of YET ANOTHER baby coming, I resent the baby pictures, and I can't help but think of you as simply another baby factory who doesn't know when to stop. It is TOTALLY unfair that you get all these beautiful babies and I don't have any, nor the hope of ever having a child in any possible manner. Before I hate you (it's not your kids' fault for being born), or say something that I will truly end up regretting, I have no choice but to defriend you so I don't get hurt again by your pouring salt into the wounds. I'm sure you don't mean to be hurtful, but I find your posts, pictures and especially your avatar to be completely arrogant and unfeeling. I don't expect you to understand or empathize. Why should you? But this is totally and completely unfair and I am not a masochist. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. And please forgive me for not exposing myself to your fertility any more."
How would you respond to this? Keeping in mind this woman hardly knows me as we've only met once and she's almost 50. My avatar was a picture of my younger brother(who passed away this year) and I my whole pregnancy until a month ago when I posted an updated picture of me...was I supposed to chop off my belly or something? We have plenty of other mutual family members that have several children that they post about more than I do mine. Where does this woman get off singling me out and referring to me as a baby factory and how do I respond to her? Right now I can't think of anything good to say so I've said nothing at all.