Ok, so we have had major problems with the inlaws. MIL constantly insults and disrespects me. The last time it happened, I finally put my foot down and said she no longer is welcome in my home until she apologizes. That was 7 months ago. So now my inlaws, BIL and SIL have turned against me because I stuck to my guns and didn't invite MIL to my sons first birthday at my house. I have let them have the kids but the last time they had them they made a statement to them about the situation saying, "sometimes adults act like children." My 11 year old got the distinct feeling they were referring to us and not them. Either way, I don't feel as if it is there place to discuss the situation with the kids. Many family members have also been telling us that my SIL has been bad mouthing us to everyone in the family. Now, they ( inlaws and SIL) are asking to take the kids for the day into NYC to see the tree and I don't want the kids to go unless my husband goes. He says he can't go cause he is working (he takes off for other things). There is so many more details but I didn't want to get to long winded.
Would you let them go?