Gambling?! I don't even know what to do right now much less think. Okay so we have always been very open with each other, I knew that he bought about 20 $1 items on ebay so he could turn around and sell them again, I knew he played poker on his phone, I knew he asks his friends here and there to set up games to play poker but he knows I'm not okay with it and I tell him that he can't do that (we both compromise for each other and I'm not going to let him waste our money were saving for a new 2 bedroom apt on a game) I'm fine with all that stuff because it's not a huge deal. However the night before last night he came home from work and told me nothing was going on, he had a good day, etc. The norm. I asked what was up because he was seemingly a bit down. Anyways, he came home yesterday night crying and freaking out, hitting his car and saying that the baby and I need someone who is stable and won't screw us over. He explained that the night he lied to me and said everything was fine he lost $390 at a corner store playing a game (throw a ball, win $100, first times free, the $5 for chance to win $200, $10 for $300, etc. It just doubles.) he lost after so many tries and they said come back tomorrow and gave him a receipt. He said he just wanted to be able to get the apt early as a Christmas present and that he could've won $10,000 an that the guy had a license for it and everything. I don't know what to say, I've never been in this situation before. We've been together 8 months today. All I can feel really is anger and sadness and frustration. I have no idea what to do.
**UPDATE: most of y'all are asking if I have considered gamblers anonymous, controlling the money, and finding someone new, 1. I have considered gamblers anonymous and am looking into it, if you have any ideas considering it or how to talk to him/ deal with him about it PLEASE comment!(: 2. I talked to him yesterday about potentially holding onto the money and rationing it like married couples did in the old days (for those of you who don't know, that's the kind of relationship we want, with the man in charge of the money making, woman staying home with the children and house) and we are considering the idea of it. I think it's a great idea, and his parents do the same I will let you know what happens. 3. I do not plan on finding anyone new at the time, so please don't comment unless you have any advice on how to help this. Thank you guys!
on Dec. 18, 2013 at 2:03 PM