I'm debating on how soon is too soon to move in with my boyfriend. I don't feel that there is any reason to say how long we've been together right now as I know people will say it's too soon. Anyway, we love each other and he loves my kids. He owns a 5 bedroom house with 3 bathrooms, a large lower level (its split level, walk out basement) it has a big family room down there plus the living room upstairs. He even has a garage and fenced yard with a kid play thing back there already. I currently rent.
I live in a great community with a great school. My daughter will be switching schools (she's in kindergarten right now) and I'll have a total hour commute for work, more if there is traffic, but I have a business here that I love and won't sell. I am ok with all this, mostly deciding on a date to move. He is so excited about us moving in that he wants me to move now, of course I explained that I will at least wait til my 5 year old is done with school (May 23rd is last day) and he understands. How did you decide on the right time?
We wouldn't move in together if we didn't think it would last, we are both already talking about marriage and him adopting my oldest once we would marry. We discussed issues that could come up between and things we'd be dealing with living together (we've both lived with other people, I was married to my oldest's dad, plus my youngest's dad I lived with too, my boyfriend was engaged before to someone who had kids as well so he understands how it is with kids too) We spend every weekend together and at least a day during the week. Over time it has become more time together each week.
We already have a room that we are slowly transitioning into the kids room, we are getting my dog used to his cat (and its gone very well!) and we discussed pretty much anything we could think of that might come up as far as relationship issues, money matters, that we want at least one kid together, etc. I have never felt like I've had such a secure relationship before (even my marriage didn't feel this right, i was young and dumb then and had no idea what it took, that was also a bad situation...). We are already very committed to each other and realize how amazing we are for each other. We are both lucky, we are equals, we are both extremely caring and love everything about each other. We realize we both have some faults but they are not really bad things and they dont' matter.
We are thinking about having the move in date as June 1st. So anyway, how did you decide when to move in together and how long had you been together?
ADD ON: I wanted to thank everyone for their input, I wasn't necessarily asking this to see what other people thought about me moving in with him, I was asking what made the decision and how long it took to decide for all of you. I am very sure I want to live with him, and the fact that we still have a few months til it will happen. I have no doubts in my mind that this reltionship will work. I have never felt this was so right and I will never find a better man, he is everything I've ever wanted in a man, a husband. Btw, if anyone did wonder, we've known each other 3 months, been an official couple over 2 months. So by the time we'd move in together it'd be almost 5 months as a couple and 6 months knowing each other. (he likes to count it from our first date, we talked for a couple weeks before our first date)
If I for what ever reason didn't end up marrying this man then I give up, as I've said though we've both been waiting a long time for someone like we've found in each other, we already talk about marriage. I wouldn't let all the strangers make my decision for me, I have decided, but I like hearing stories. :) Thanks everyone :)