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Sister-in-law showing nude pictures of my baby

Posted by on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:26 PM
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My sister-in-law has been helping take care of my son, who is now three months old. I don't agree with taking pictures of him nude from the front no matter how old he is. I have expressed this to her numerous times. My husband had taken a couple pictures of him right after he was born and of course the baby was nude -- I am okay with US having these pictures. However, he sent them to his sister after she asked for them and I found out that she had been showing them to her boyfriends/sugar daddies (yes, those are both plural) and other random friends. I told her at that time that I did not like her showing the pictures to anybody. Since then, she has taken pictures of him spread-eagle in his baby bather while I was at work. When I found out she had them I was upset and she told me she wasn't going to show them to anyone. I just found out from her newest boyfriend of three days that she has been showing these new pictures to him and a bunch of other people. While she was in the bathroom I went into her phone and deleted one of the photos before she came out. I know I shouldn't go into other people's cell phones, but she should not be showing nude pictures of my child to everyone without my permission either! As I sit here fuming, I want to pull her aside and tell her to delete all of the nude photos she has of him in her phone and tell her that this is where I draw the line. I don't even want to leave her alone with him anymore. I know he is just a baby but it's the way she takes the pictures and both her and my husband are constantly bragging about how "well endowed" he is. He is just a baby! She is extremely close with my husband, having almost raised him herself and sees our child as if it were her grandchild, not just a nephew.  I know my husband doesn't care either way, but I am his mother and I feel like my opinions in regards to my child should be respected. My stomach turns every time I imagine her showing those pictures to anyone. Am I wrong to take her aside and basically "let her have it" while making her delete any photos she has? I am trying to calm down and wait until another day to do it while we are alone together instead of while my husband and her boyfriend are present.

by on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:26 PM
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djg0622
by Member on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:29 PM
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I agree with you. I don't like naked pics of my kids for everyone to see either. I don't put them online either. She should be respecting your wishes. If you are able to I would find someone else to watch him.
lilmama8408
by Silver Member on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:30 PM
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We dont have or allow nude pics of our kids. To many weirdos I out there. And they way she keeps taking pics after u said no would raise red flags to me.
frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:34 PM
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I would tell her I am going to the police and will press charges of her having pictures of a child not hers nude and passing it around.  It can be considered child porn.

Russian12Mafia
by on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:36 PM

Thanks for the input. The only thing I can say in her defense is that they are from Honduras, and in their country the level of modesty is very low. (I've seen numerous photos on Facebook of their friends' children of varying ages swimming naked in rivers in Honduras, etc.) But that still doesn't make it okay with me.

Mommy2justone
by Mommy2justtwo on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:39 PM
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I would tell her that is considered child pornography and if she is caught with that in her phone she could be arrested.
-PB
by Gold Member on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:41 PM

 This...

Quoting frndlyfn:

I would tell her I am going to the police and will press charges of her having pictures of a child not hers nude and passing it around.  It can be considered child porn.

 

frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:43 PM
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Once you said it is not ok, she should have deleted all pictures from her phone.  Unfortunately now others may have it their possession to pass around to more strangers.  Is everyone in the US now?

Quoting Russian12Mafia:

Thanks for the input. The only thing I can say in her defense is that they are from Honduras, and in their country the level of modesty is very low. (I've seen numerous photos on Facebook of their friends' children of varying ages swimming naked in rivers in Honduras, etc.) But that still doesn't make it okay with me.


Bmat
by Barb on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:47 PM

It is considered child porn and is a very serious offense.

LizzieAnnesMom
by Member on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:48 PM
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I would tell her that if she takes one more nude photo of my child i will have her arrested for child pornography. Hell yeah i would let her have it. There isnt a singled amn rason she has to be taking photos of hour naked chld.and the fact that she knows you dont want her to and she keeps on would raise serious red flags with me.
LauraLuciferMom
by on Mar. 18, 2014 at 10:50 PM
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Is she aware that once you said no nude photos of your son, and she kept taking and having them, that she is now in posession of CHILD PORNOGRAPHY and she is also distributing it by showing it to people? I think you should take a visit to the police station and speak with the head officer there.. I'd also make sure she is no longer alone with my son.. No of fence but talking about how well endowed a baby boy is, is perverted and unacceptable and your bf or husband seems like maybe there may be something wrong with him too. It's never ok to be fascinated with your child's genitals. It's creepy! Watch for signs!
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