I have been in a relationship with the father of my two children from seven years. For the last three years he has been abusive. At first it was whenever we got into a very heated argument, but for the last year, the smallest things tick him off and he goes from happy to choking me in five seconds. Last Tuesday was the worst. I cant take it anymore. I told him to leave or else i will call the police, and he did. I was too afraid to stay the night with my children so i packed a bag and we went to a hotel for the night. The next day I changed the locks and installed 2 bolts. He has been calling and texting but i have not answered or responded. At this point, he has been gone almost 3 days. I am unsure of the next step on giving him his belongings. I DO NOT want him back at my apartment. I am wondering if i should drop his clothes off to his dad's house -show up unannounced- or will that cause too much drama? I just dont know what to do next.