So here's the situation:
I reconnected recently with a semi-friend/acquaintance from high school because her kid and mine are the same age, and go to the same school. So we would talk on facebook a lot and have play dates with the kids and such.
Her kid's birthday came around and she invited us.
My kiddo was so excited, because she loves kids and is super friedly, so we bought the birthday kid a gift and attended the party. It was at a play-place, and the hostess( "friend") was SO cheap she ordered one pizza for the whole party. We ended blowing $20 on our own kid because she only supplied each kid with like 10 tokens.
Why would you invite us if you're not going to feed us or take care of us in anyway?
I don't know, she is white, and I know it is a bit commonplace for white people to host "cake parties" where they only have cake and no food. Which is fine if you let your guests know ahead of time, like: "We will be having a cake party around 3'o'clock or so (after lunch) so come and celebrate with us or whatever.."
I'm latina and it's seen as rude to host a cake party and not feed your guests. We are generally expected to feed our guests until their pant buttons are popping and then there are still leftovers. We usually do the lunch, snacks, cake, dessert, everything.
I don't know if it is a cultural difference between us I need to understand, or if she was just rude for not warning us to eat before because she was buying limited food...idk.
So it's awkward as hell because I don't know her other guests, but I go for the sake of my daughter getting to play with her little friend, we took a gift/ balloons..the whole schpeel you know? We went because my kid's birthday party was coming and I wanted her to bring her kid.
Fast forward to a week before my kid's birthday party, I inite the mom and her kid. She tells me ot to mail her an invitation, just to send her the info. So I do.
My kid's party rolls around and guess who doesn't show up.
Yes, I am offended but not too surprised.
She never EVER apologizes or acknowledges my kid's party...then ike 3 weeks later messages me on facebook to set up a playdate?
Um...no. Why should I accomodate her after she stiffed me and my kid and didn't even have common courtesy to apologize, let alone make up some phony excuse?
That left a bad taste in my mouth. A really bad, inconsiderate taste.
Now I genuinely really want nothing to do with her, I don't hate her, I just don't really care about my quasi-friendship with her. I don't want to waste my time with a rude and flaky person.
I don't care to hash things out or repair anything because well, I just don't really care since there wasn't a solid friendship between us anyway.
I'm just worried that if I just up and delete her from FB that it will be SUPER awkward if I bump into in public.
How should I handle this?? Help!! lol