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What is cheating to you?

Posted by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:11 PM
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 My partner of 3 and a half years made the choice to reply to some sexual post  on craigslist. He has done this at least 3 or 4 times over the past 3 years. I don't know why but this time I left him. He has never had sex with another woman or given out his number and he gives me no reason why he has done this. Now I have friends who has had far worse done to them as far as having sex with other women one friends husband even got another woman pregnant twice yet she is still with him. I Love my parner a lot and I know he loves me,I am 4 months pregnant with his baby and i do miss our family. I wonder did I over react? I told him till he can understand why he keeps doing these things and can promise it won't happen again I don't want to be with him. We now live in different homes and we still help each other with the kids (the child I am having is our first child together). Is this cheating? Did I over react? What is cheating to other women?

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booaura
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:14 PM
I'd have left him after the first time. I have too much respect for myself, and too much pride, to stay with someone like that. I deserve better than someone with so little respect for me, or such a lack of character.
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SaintJudes
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:17 PM

This...OR I would stay with him for the sake of the family as long as he didn't know that I knew what he did. Reason being, if he knows I know he'd just do it again!!

Quoting booaura: I'd have left him after the first time. I have too much respect for myself, and too much pride, to stay with someone like that. I deserve better than someone with so little respect for me, or such a lack of character.


booaura
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:18 PM
I'd never stay with someone for kids or family. Being miserable myself is doing a disservice to me. If he did it once, he'll do it again.

Quoting SaintJudes:

This...OR I would stay with him for the sake of the family as long as he didn't know that I knew what he did. Reason being, if he knows I know he'd just do it again!!

Quoting booaura: I'd have left him after the first time. I have too much respect for myself, and too much pride, to stay with someone like that. I deserve better than someone with so little respect for me, or such a lack of character.

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SaintJudes
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:19 PM
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I realize my post wasnt much of a help but listen to my story. My man, just a boyfriend was checking out escorts online all day every day. I kept asking him to stop he wouldnt so I left in the middle of the night. But now 6 months later he promises he wont do it anymore because he doesnt want to lose me, so we've been dating again, and we will just see if things have changed. I am very glad he came back/I came back to him, but sometimes you gotta do what you got to do in order to get there..

SaintJudes
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:20 PM

Oh okay then yes of course leave his ungrateful ass. Then if you're meant to be, there you have it.

Quoting booaura: I'd never stay with someone for kids or family. Being miserable myself is doing a disservice to me. If he did it once, he'll do it again.
Quoting SaintJudes:

This...OR I would stay with him for the sake of the family as long as he didn't know that I knew what he did. Reason being, if he knows I know he'd just do it again!!

Quoting booaura: I'd have left him after the first time. I have too much respect for myself, and too much pride, to stay with someone like that. I deserve better than someone with so little respect for me, or such a lack of character.



Jenwheaton
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:21 PM

 That's how I feel now I was like wow if he is willing to do this well I am pregnant it's never going to stop.  I don't want a life of distrust. I think I was holding on to the fact that we had these kids involed and trying t make a stable home. I wish I did leave him the first time I am worse off now than i was before now I am stuck dealing with him forever.

atlmom2
by Ruby Member on May. 4, 2014 at 12:23 PM

I would have left him after the first time too. 

Jenwheaton
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:25 PM

 I don't know if we are really over I just know right now I am worrying about me and my daughter and my new baby. I don't know beside this crap we have a great relationship as far as friends and sex it's all still there. I have no clue what he gets from doing this. AND nether does he

nana776
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:26 PM
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Personally, I don't think you over-reacted. You set a boundary and he crossed it. IMO, anytime someone does something that they feel they have to hide from their partner, then they do not have good intentions and it shouldn't be done. 

Jenwheaton
by on May. 4, 2014 at 12:27 PM

It's weird I feel sad but glad I said enough already. IDK

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