Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Advice for Moms Advice for Moms

He said the L word...I'm not ready.update...kinda hurt.

Posted by on Aug. 13, 2014 at 6:16 PM
  • 32 Replies

A man that is really intrested in me (I am a single mom) he is newely divorced (couple months) but has been separated for a year. I have been separted for 8 years just havent gotten around to file for divorce. 

I told him that nothing could happen until I am actually divorced (maybe thats why I havnt done it, I use it as a crutch) 

Thing is he keeps talking about "plans" more babies, moving in, and sex on the beach(never going to happen I hate sex as it is in public sends my anxiety through the roof)..I have told him with my medical issues I was lucky enough that my Neurofibromatosis type I didnt get passed on to my son that I dont want to risk it with another child. Not to mention that he has three kid from two different women. (age 13-3) 

But now he has started saying "love you"

I dont want to say that untill I am ready...but how do I not say it and not sound like a bitch? 

update- He is now facebooking me about how he told another girl that he likes her but she responded with the whole "I see you as a big brother" thing.... Kinda hurts a little that he on one hand talks about "loving" me and on the other hand talks about this other woman that he wants to move in with and how hurt he is that after he told her that he has liked her for a long time and wants more that she just sees him as a older brother. 


by on Aug. 13, 2014 at 6:16 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
Mrs.Urquhart
by on Aug. 13, 2014 at 6:24 PM
1 mom liked this

You don't sound compatible at all. Tell Jack to hit the road.

DACIA79
by Bronze Member on Aug. 13, 2014 at 6:29 PM
1 mom liked this
Tell him the truth if he can't except it that just proves he's the wrong guy.
Mom2Just1
by Mom2boys on Aug. 13, 2014 at 9:20 PM

Tell him the truth and move on.

Daisypath Anniversary tickersLilypie Second Birthday tickers

Lilypie Kids Birthday tickers

Lilypie Maternity tickers


AmandaWiggins
by Member on Aug. 13, 2014 at 9:52 PM
I agree.

Quoting Mrs.Urquhart:

You don't sound compatible at all. Tell Jack to hit the road.

Connorsmommy13
by Bronze Member on Aug. 13, 2014 at 10:06 PM


Quoting DACIA79: Tell him the truth if he can't except it that just proves he's the wrong guy.

How pathetic is "I am not ready for you to say that word yet" though???

rgba
by Bronze Member on Aug. 13, 2014 at 10:08 PM
1 mom liked this
Why would you post his picture here? Does he know?
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
1L2CMommy
by Member on Aug. 13, 2014 at 10:08 PM
You hate sex?
Connorsmommy13
by Bronze Member on Aug. 13, 2014 at 10:09 PM


Quoting 1L2CMommy: You hate sex?

Yes never enjoyed it...it just hurts. 

DACIA79
by Bronze Member on Aug. 13, 2014 at 10:13 PM
There are just some things that shouldn't be faked. It's never pathetic to be honest.

Quoting Connorsmommy13:

Quoting DACIA79: Tell him the truth if he can't except it that just proves he's the wrong guy.

How pathetic is "I am not ready for you to say that word yet" though???

MusherMaggie
by Bronze Member on Aug. 13, 2014 at 10:54 PM
He doesn't sound too stable to me. RUN!!
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN