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Advice Needed for behavior

Posted by on Feb. 6, 2016 at 8:13 AM
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Hello Moms I'm in need of advice on what to do about my 7 yr old sons behavior. My son is a type 1 diabetic and also has A.D.H.D and is on medicine, but the last few months his behavior has gotten way out of control (back talking,lying,tantrums, etc) and we have tried many ways of punishment positive and negative, tried picking our battles with him and it's just not helping so I'm in desperate need of advice cause it is starting to affect my marriage.
by on Feb. 6, 2016 at 8:13 AM
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Linda_Runs
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 8:35 AM

While my own children don't have ADHD, it seems many parents I know have children who do.  Some of those children play here with my own.  So while I am certainly no expert, I can pass on what these parents in your situation have said to me.

ADHD is no excuse for back talking and lying.  Tantrums sure if ADHD is not under control.

My advice for back talking and lying is to discipline and punish.  By 7 years old he is old enough to be showing you this disrespect and lying totally on purpose.  If he were my child, I would be instituting a 1-2-3 Magic type program where expected behaviour and increasing consequences (both positive and negative) are clearly defined so a 7 year old can appreciate them.

To relate, my own kids are 8 and 10 and I have dealt with the same things as you, as most parents have.  Not easy - is it?

Apr1l
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 9:04 AM
I agree w 123 magic. I'm sure he loves his vid games so that can be taken away for unacceptable behavior
kjt19891
by New Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 9:45 AM
We have done that and have grounded him, took away all electronics, no tv,time outs,etc and nothing is working and he is just extremely rude and disrespectful to me and my husband. We have never had this problem before until a few months ago. But he is not this way with his pawpaw
Stevensmomma
by Bronze Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 9:46 AM
Ds is adhd we just got dignosed we decided not to medicate. We do reward charts where he earns as easy as take away reward we do points which transfer into minutes towards video games or tv time. He earns for good takes away when bad it works for the most part consistancy is a major for him.
kjt19891
by New Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 9:51 AM
We tried that too. We have done everything possible to help him and nothing seems to work.
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by on Feb. 6, 2016 at 10:21 AM

Perhaps you can speak with his pedi & see if the dosage of meds can be lowered ..
Also try the reward charts .. good luck :)

kjt19891
by New Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 10:29 AM
They had to up his dose because he wasn't doing well on the lower dose and was having trouble at school focusing and doing his work and we have even set an appt with a child counseling to see if that will help any..the reward chart was not working with him either
sabrtooth1
by on Feb. 6, 2016 at 10:45 AM

Counseling for the children AND the family, is an essential componant in the treatment of any emotional disorder like ADHD.  It is also necessary that he be evaluated and treated by a SPECIALIST- a psychiatrist - because ADHD NEVER flies alone.  many of the behaviors you are experiencing may be the result of ODD, Conduct Disorder, Rage Attacks, or even pediatric BiPolar disorder.

I also noticed you said "My husband" in referance to his relationship with your son, instead of Daddy or "his father".  THAT may be at the heart of his, AND your husband's, behavior.  Counseling is a must, for all of you.

kjt19891
by New Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 11:33 AM
Yeah I agree on the counseling and him and my son have a great relationship and he treats him as his very own and loves him to death even wants to legally adopt him. My son does things to act like him and always talks about him but just lately he's just been a real brat to everyone and disrespectful.
kjt19891
by New Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 11:35 AM
I just don't understand and feel like I'm running out of options and feel really down and upset about it
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