My 15 year old step daughter just moved in with us. I've been in her life since she was 6 so we have a very comfortable relationship. Now taking on the role of custodial parent is a whole new ball game. Before I was always the go to Mom for advice, etc. Prior to her staying with us she had all the freedom in the world and made decisions based on having that freedom. i.e. smoking pot, drinking, losing her virginity in a non-commital relationship. Now it seems, its our job to redirect her. School will become her main focus (it never has been), however, shes having difficulties giving up her old life. She has been having a sexual relationship with a 23 year old man with a child of his own. I confronted him the other day and told him that unless he wanted to go to jail, he had to leave her be. I've just discovered that she is still talking to him. I know that they havent seen eachother to hook up again, but I dont want her hanging onto the idea. When I threatened him before, she had a huge meltdown and didnt talk to me for days, she complained about me betraying her trust, etc. etc. I am not sure how to approach it again and could use some advice. Also, I could use any advice on helping her adjust her attitude towards school.
on Jan. 19, 2008 at 11:16 PM