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boyfriend's weird porn/fetish. don't know how to handle this

Posted by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 3:09 PM
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The other night, my boyfriend and I got into a huge fight and he locked me out of our bedroom all night. But I could see he was on the computer because the light was coming from under the bedroom door. So the next day I get on the internet history and see he's been looking at porn sites. Which honestly, doesn't bother me that much. So whatever. But one of them had this weird name to it. So I clicked on it and it was lactating porn! Like men drinking breastmilk from new mothers breasts! Gross!!!! And so then I started clicking on the other sites. None of them were "normal" porn sites. They were all either lactating porn or peeing porn! Peeing porn?! Disgusting. So now I can't even look at him straight and it totally grosses me out. Come to find out my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years has some pretty weird/disgusting fetishes he never told me about. He doesn't know I know about it either. I'm so confused - I don't know what to do about it.

by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 3:09 PM
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texann
by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 3:15 PM
I don't know if the history offers any way to check on time stamps, but unless you can see dates from a while back, I'm not sure I would be convinced he is really into that stuff.  He may have heard about the lactating thing and checked it out from curiosity.  As for the rest of it,he may have been just surfing around and may never go back to those sites again.
Men get curious about all different sexual things.  I would just keep an eye on things.
mamasitax2
by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 3:16 PM

That is really odd.  I had a friend who found some weird she male type porn on her bfs comp but she has just ignored it.  I presonally couldn't ignore something like that. 

I would be more concerned/upset about the fact that you're 31 weeks pregnant and he locked you out of the bedroom.  I mean who does that!  Maybe it's time you guys had a talk about your relationship.

MommySteph06
by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 3:30 PM

Quoting texann:

I don't know if the history offers any way to check on time stamps, but unless you can see dates from a while back, I'm not sure I would be convinced he is really into that stuff.  He may have heard about the lactating thing and checked it out from curiosity.  As for the rest of it,he may have been just surfing around and may never go back to those sites again.
Men get curious about all different sexual things.  I would just keep an eye on things.

That's totally true. I never thought of it that way. Maybe you're right and he was just curious one night surfing the internet. Thank you so much. I really do feel alot better now. And I'll definantly keep an eye on things.

MommySteph06
by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 3:35 PM

Quoting mamasitax2:

That is really odd.  I had a friend who found some weird she male type porn on her bfs comp but she has just ignored it.  I presonally couldn't ignore something like that. 

I would be more concerned/upset about the fact that you're 31 weeks pregnant and he locked you out of the bedroom.  I mean who does that!  Maybe it's time you guys had a talk about your relationship.

There is a little more to the story than he just decided to lock me out of the bedroom. He was mad, I was mad/being hormonal pregnant crazy person and I grabbed my pillows and an extra blanket and said, "Fine, I'll sleep on the couch then!" But when I tried to go back in a little while later, he had locked the door. But I didn't even knock or anything, so as far as he knows, I was asleep the whole time.
lacygurl2326
by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 3:36 PM
I SO agree with that!! that's pretty messed up that he locked you out of your bedroom. 
Quoting mamasitax2:


I would be more concerned/upset about the fact that you're 31 weeks pregnant and he locked you out of the bedroom. I mean who does that! Maybe it's time you guys had a talk about your relationship.


ncmomofboys
by on Jan. 20, 2008 at 7:39 PM
Guys are strange like that, he probally was only looking out of curiosity....I dunno, I found out that my ex of 5 years was into some pretty wierd stuff, but not until that last year we were together....you never can tell about guys!! I would have never believed that he could get so turned on by a chick peeing on him or what they call "golden showers", but turned out that he was really into it, but was afraid that it would run me off.....so that along w/a whole lot of other things (drugs included) made me decide he was not the man for me!   Good luck to you, its prolly harmless! Don't fret too much...take care of yourself and don't let him lock you out of your bedroom, you need rest!!
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