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I have the baby blues... help!!!

Posted by on Jan. 28, 2008 at 5:01 PM
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Hello everyone... I am so depressed. I have been like this for a little over a week. I can't sleep. I can't hardly eat.. All I want to do is go back to work...I love my new baby. I do... I had her January 10th... my other two kids are constantly fighting. I have no help from my fiance. I can't stand being alone all the time while he is out working and when he is around we argue... or he is absent. This weekend went by so matter how I tried...I was still yelling and mad and angry. I don't feel right... I wish I could just be me again... All I want to do is cry...until there are no tears left to cry... but I can't. I have to be strong for my other two kids and my baby...

I am usually a happy person. always laughing and smiling but I haven't smiled nor laughed in two weeks.. all I do is yell and scream at everyone... and feed the baby..change the kids' diapers/pullups...bathe them, do dishes, clean the house, work from home for my company...sleep a little... Is anyone else experiencing this? Am I the only one? How do you conquer this? Should I go see my Ob/GYN or make a appt to see a specialist? Counselor? Please... advise would be great... thanks!

by on Jan. 28, 2008 at 5:01 PM
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by on Jan. 28, 2008 at 8:40 PM
I have the same kind of feelings. It really helps to be able to get out of the house which I KNOW may be easier said than done. Ask friends for help and surround yourself with friends who have children bc otherwise they will not understand no matter how much they say they do. I visited my regular doctor and we tried different levels of anti depressants and eventually I was able to come off of them. PLEASE seek help. You don't have to do it alone....

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by on Jan. 28, 2008 at 8:42 PM
I went through the same exact thing. Being home alone all day with the baby can get stressful. I had really bad anxiety and i would cry for no reason. I felt like i was going crazy. It is so hard because it seems like no matter what anyone says it wont get better. No one can talk you through it. Eventually it does get better. It kind of just stops. Good luck and congrats on the new baby!
by on Jan. 28, 2008 at 9:30 PM
well it hasn't even been too long since you had your baby!!  you need to tell your fiance' to step it up and help you out.  you can't do all of that by yourself, and you shouldn't be expected to.  I bet you'd start feeling a heck of a lot better if he helped out more with the kids and the housework lol, maybe cooked a meal or something.  you don't have to be mean when you ask him for it, maybe he hasn't helped out too much because he honestly didn't think you needed help.  some guys are like that.

Lilypie 2nd Birthday Ticker

by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 11:44 AM

hello, i know how you feel...but our situation was a little different. i was a first time mom, fresh outta high school with no mothering experience and when i had our first, my husband was never around he was working all the time and when anyone saw me and the baby i just thought i was a horrible mom and that i didnt deserve this i had no sleep. honey, it will subside. Especially when the baby lets you sleep more. If you feel like you can't take it anymore in the may need to see you obgyn and see if there is anything they can recommend. if you need anyone to talk to, im here for you and i am so sorry youre feeling this way. it feels like yesterday that i did to...

by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 2:06 PM
Make an appt. with your OB/GYN.  After I had my baby I was a mess....crying...yelling...just wanted everyone to go away and leave me alone.  My husband would come home from work and I would bolt out the door....making an excuse that I needed to go somewhere...then have a huge cryfest in whatever parking lot I wound up in....It was horrible.  I resented everything.  Nevermind the guilt I felt over feeling the way I did.  I was diagnosed with PPD and put on Zoloft.....It works...I still have feelings just took the anxiety and craziness away.  You don't have to feel the way you can get help...don't be ashamed or embarrased.  Heather
by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 2:10 PM
Please don't be afraid to see you DR about your depression.  Everything youare feeling is completely normal, and your DR will be able to help you feel like yourself again.
by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 2:14 PM
Seeing you doctor is a very good idea.  I think all mom's go through this at one time or another.
by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 2:20 PM
After I had my last little one (she is 8 months now) I really had a tough time with feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Of course at my age being both post partum and pre-menopausal is a wierd mix. I talked to my MD about it and she thought I should try a low dose of Cymbalta. It really helped and although circumstances have not changed, my nerves are doing so much better. Don't be afraid to talk to your Dr. We all experience some form of wierd chemistry after a baby and there is nothing wrong with asking for a little help. Hugs!

...My oldest is a Soldier serving in Iraq

by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 2:29 PM
i can relate, my baby is 1  but i still get like that from time to time. what i do is when pyper goes down for her nap i go on here and either go on myspace or cafemom, or i watch some tv or do a puzzle.  listen to some relaxing music and just remember how precious my family is to me, even though sometimes i just want to run out of the house
it could deffinately help to talk to your ob. they will let you know what the best thing is to do.

good luck sweetie.


        ~Alissa~  mom to pyper emily, and girlfriend to the most wonderful man in the world.


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