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I have the baby blues... help!!!

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Hello everyone... I am so depressed. I have been like this for a little over a week. I can't sleep. I can't hardly eat.. All I want to do is go back to work...I love my new baby. I do... I had her January 10th... my other two kids are constantly fighting. I have no help from my fiance. I can't stand being alone all the time while he is out working and when he is around we argue... or he is absent. This weekend went by so matter how I tried...I was still yelling and mad and angry. I don't feel right... I wish I could just be me again... All I want to do is cry...until there are no tears left to cry... but I can't. I have to be strong for my other two kids and my baby...

I am usually a happy person. always laughing and smiling but I haven't smiled nor laughed in two weeks.. all I do is yell and scream at everyone... and feed the baby..change the kids' diapers/pullups...bathe them, do dishes, clean the house, work from home for my company...sleep a little... Is anyone else experiencing this? Am I the only one? How do you conquer this? Should I go see my Ob/GYN or make a appt to see a specialist? Counselor? Please... advise would be great... thanks!

by on Jan. 28, 2008 at 5:01 PM
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by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 2:38 PM

As a new mom, I discovered that pp depression is a chemical imbalance based on a lack of nutrients in the body. It's very stressful to the body to provide all the vitamins, minerals, and basics to keep the body happy. Your body is craving foods with a higher nutrient content to replace what is missing and help your body stabilize. May I suggest: I used it all during my pregnancy as well as currently eating and feeding my own 5 month old. We eat the basics: Nu Plus, Calli, and Fortune Delight. They are designed to help maintain a natural cleansing,  balancing, and nourishing flow to your overstressed bod. Nu Plus is literally a happy food, I eat it throughout the day and especially at night after dinner of if I wake up at night  for food. I don't want the extra calories, just pure nutrition. It comes in fruit flavored sunbars, nu puffs, and vitashake to just name a few. These foods are food grade herbs that satisfy your cravings as well as balance out how you feel. I have eaten them for over 3 years and can't go without them. My personal email address: and cell 406/690-3398. Don't hesitate to call, I still take naps with my girl, but I will get back to you.


by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 3:07 PM
I went through this also I was doing the same stuff your doing but it is gone all of it.  I listen to      They have a  1800.888.7277  it is free call them week days or chat on the web   they are great and kind.  See in there sight if there is a regular radio station in your town.  Hang in there this shall to pass. Try listing to Dr. Becker on sky angel network he is good and has helped me a lot. week days  2 pm EST  They have a free phone # check it out they will talk to you and nice.  check the TV guide.  I pray you start doing better  Ask JESUS to help you The HOLY SPRIT  gives me peace. your friend yovonna :)  JESUS is every where just talk to HIM.
by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 4:03 PM

Don't hesitate to ask for help!  There are many people out there who are more than willing to help you, I am sure of it.  Have and family or friends around to watch your kids while you get your own piece of mind?  It is normal to feel this way.  I have been there too, especially when your significant other isn't there to relieve your load.  Try getting some exercise when you do have a chance to be by yourself, because that can help with your hormones.  Walks or maybe even some yoga can help.  Nothing too physical if you don't desire it.  Running around cleaning and attending to your children can make you exhausted (which does not help you with your new wacky hormones).  If you are anything like I am, the need for everything to be perfect.  Let go of a spotless house, and get down and spend time with your chidren.  Your older kids are probably fighting because maybe they want your attention or not liking the structure they have now ( a new baby).  Play games and maybe even take them down to your closest park to let them run free. There is always your doctor to help you individually too!  Explain to your significant other what you are really feeling and tell him you need his help.  Men can't read our mind, and are quit different from us women.  Explain what you need from him, and I am sure he will be more than willing to help if you tell him what you desire and why you need it from him.   You probably want to go back to work, because you were probably were getting a lot more appreciation than what you are now.  I am telling you, there is nothing more imporant than what you are doing now.  I am sure you are doing a good job, you just need a few extra hands and some time out.   Don't be afraid to get down and play with your kids.  I promise they will love it!  The moods will change if you put effort.  I hope some of these options will help.  Good luck!

by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 5:17 PM
You definetly have your hands full! 3 kids!  It is hard doing it all by yourself.  Being alone is hard!  I can hardly wait for my husband to walk thru the door at night and he is a great help.  Have you talk to your doctor about post partum depression??  It isn't bad to get on anti depressent medication.  You wouldn't be the 1st.  Your hormones are all over the place.   I went on Sam-e a natural mood booster you can get at your local drug store, Target or walmarts.  It really helped me.  Just needed it for a month or so!!!!  Go get something, it doesn't mean your weak!!! You have a lot on your plate!!!  My mom always said (she had 6 of us)  you can't beat em so join em or you will go crazy!  (meaning the kids)  You just have to realize this is your life right now not forever.  It will get better and easier!!  Just hunker down and try to find humor in it.  Try the sam-e!!!!! I swear by it. But go get something stronger if you think you need to.
by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 5:27 PM
I've been there and done that.  Everyone goes through it a little.  Some more than most.  My suggestion is to find someone, someone you trust, to watch the kids.  Even if it's for a couple of hours so you can relax and take a nap.  That's what I had to do.  If you can't get someone to watch them then I would just take a few minutes during the day to focus on you and only you.  I would make your fiance help.  But that's just me.

Nancy Jean 

by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 5:40 PM
I know what you want is someone to share your current experience with rather than advice but advice is all I can give.
There's a great book called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus that talks about relationships. It might help you and your fiance connect better.
by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 6:35 PM
My baby is 8 months old, and I had the same feelings. I still do from time to time. I feel like I should have gone to the doctor when it was really bad, but I didn't. If you feel like you should go to the doctor you should. Sometimes it helps just to talk about it.  I had a good long talk with my husband, and it really helped a lot. You have to take care of yourself in order to take good care of your babies.   Just remember that you are a good mommy and when you are really overwhelmed or angry, it's okay to go in the bathroom or somewhere by yourself for a few minutes and cry or even yell! Take some time for yourself.
by on Jan. 29, 2008 at 10:03 PM
Even though I am an adoptive mommy, I can relate to your pain.  I am not able to conceive "biologically" (due to my medical history leading to infertility).  My "paper pregnancy" for our daughter, Emily, was 32 months long (*our adoption agency was predicting 6-8 months when we first sent our application).  Add to this a change of jobs and moving (which means two more homestudy visits from our social worker), and I was anxious and depressed.  I got help from a good counselor who encouraged me to talk to my dr.  After Emily's adoption, I didn't feel very well either.  Most of my friends thought it was post-adoption depression (which, BTW, is very real and very much like the "baby blues"); however, I needed to visit my dr. again.  I found out that I am going though new motherhood and menopause at the same time.  The mood swings, insomnia, hot flashes, etc. were horrible and my dh was overwhelmed!  Fortunantely, I got the medical help I needed, and I feel much better now because I'm simply wouldn't give up!!!  I encourage you to please keep asking for help (from medical professionals, family, and friends) so that you and your family can be happy and healthy. 
Kelly (AKA:  Emily's mommy) 
by on Jan. 30, 2008 at 12:32 PM
Go back to work and go to your primary Dr. and get on some anti-depression pills!
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