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what a depressing christmas 2008 :( !! EDITED!

Posted by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:29 AM
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So christmas was just a little hard somewhat depressing being we have NO money for present, we turned to toys for tots, it made me feel a little better, but i dont feel like its good enough since it didnt technically come from my fiance and i. Things just keep getting harder, now the trany in our car is going out, we dont even have the 80$ to get it looked at, what are we going to do now we have 1 car, and cant even afford to get it looked at! what happens next, we wont have the money to fix it! on top of that we need tires, we are BALDER THEN BALD! and the roads are so nasty with all the snow fall we got. can life get any harder. that car is life it seems, we live 30min from town, only thing by us is a church bar and small gas station! my parents have money but are ass holes and wont help, my fiances parents are hard on money so we dont want to turn to them. that car gets kevin to and from work, if he misses just one day hes fired, if he gets fired we get kicked out of my parents house. sad that we are all living here hu?!?

i jsut want to break down and cry. i feel helpless and hopless, i feel like such a bad mother

 

EDIT::

 

im going to kinda back some statements up here i guess. 1. TFT, i feel bad that I PERSONALLY cant get her xmas gifts, i really wanted it to be something i/we got her but just cant!

I dont have a job, car, i dont even have a stupid plastic card that sayas YOU CAN DRIVE! just dont have the money for it.

Our daughter was in and out of the hospital and specialists when she was born for 3-5 months. Kevin (so) ended up fired because apparently projectile vomiting 24/7 had nothing to to with weight loss and being underweight so he was fired in fed. he got a job delivering pizzas but it only paid enough for diapers and very little to rent tips went to ges. finally in april we where kicked out, his parents lived in a 2 bedroom apt with 5 people. so my parenst straight out said we dont want to do this but apparently we have no choice, that was to let us live there. so now we are here, we had foodstamps once kev was fired, and when we moved into my parents they thought we where still going to have them, but since income was out of range for it, we couldnt get them, so my parents said you have to find your own way to eat. once we got wic (the milk eggs cheese etc) they demanded that they get the products weather we use it or not. since i guess water is so expensive we each are allowed 1 shower a week, laundry done every 2 weeks, i shouldnt complain since we dont pay rent but things are pathetic, we have to buy our own food here is the catch, THEY can eat OUR food, BUT WE CAN NOT touch THEIR food! with a paycheck between 600 and 700$ with all trying to catch back up it is impossible to have anything left over.

 

YAYA IM VENTING NOW!

by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:29 AM
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happyinprogress
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:32 AM

Cheer up!!! Remember that Christmas isn't about what's under the tree, it's about what;s in your heart. Be thankful for you've got, not so focused on what you don't have. Your healthy, your child is healthy, your finance has a job, and you live with your parents. It could be alot worse, trust me

jazzyandpat
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:33 AM

ohhh hun i kno w that song and dance all to well.all i can say is pray that g od will change worst to better for you.

mamabear421
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:40 AM

I've been there!!! More than 1 Christmas. Things will be ok on Christmas morn with the kids, you will see. As far as the car wish I could help. Talk to social service maybe they can help. They bought cars for people in my area before. Maybe they can help get yours fixed. Things gotta get better RIGHT????  HUGS                MERRY CHRISTMAS

thehairnazi
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:43 AM

trying to understand what you wrote..you live with your parents.. but 'they are assholes and won't help"? wow. you feel like 'toys for tots isn't good enough'? wth, when people don't appreciate things they've been given..GIVEN!..its no wonder some people don't want to help, the assholes, i mean. hopefully, you're situation will change, but i think you have to be proactive at some point, you can't just continue to wait for someone else to change it for you. i know its hard right now, but geez!

He's making a list, checking it twice....

msjtwin
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:43 AM

Girl hold you head up, because you are not alone.  This Christmas we are also going through some financial hardship.  We were able to buy two toys a piece, but I wish I could buy them just a little bit more.  My car needs a new battery so it takes a minute to start up, my boyfriend car makes noises.  We don't have any money for food and the utilities.  And on top of all of this my boyfriend is about to be laid off again.  There are times when I just cry and cry and worry and worry, which causes headaches for me.  But I just keep trying to remember that as long as we got each other everything is going to be okay. 

I noticed in you post that you said that he works and you don't.  Why don't you try to earn some extra money while staying at home? 

Times are tough, but if you continue to trust in god, everything will be okay.

i_am_mel_55316
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:44 AM

I am totally in your shoes.. I haven't even put up my Christmas stuff yet, because I know I am not in the mood due to not having money.. I haven't worked for Months because NO ONE is hiring.. My husband just got laid off.. So we are 0-0 for gifts also..

 My truck also is acting up, needs a tune up and ball joints and there is NO HEAT.... And 3 of my tires are bald as well... But my mom has agreed to fix mine for Christmas just need to pick the most important thing that needs fixing.. Wish i could do it all before our new son comes in Feb.. but it's not looking good...

 keep your chin up hun.. Things will hopefully get better..

 

 

barbiedoll31
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:46 AM

Well I was one of the ones that thought turning to TFT was a bad idea since you had family willing to help you buy presents for your dd, but whats done is done.  The fact that you feel like even THAT isn't good enough kind boils my blood.  If your going to use it you had better appreciate it especially since someone else that really needs it may not be able to because you did. 

LOADS of people are going through what you are, but your attitude has a lot in life to do with what is handed to you next.  I'm a firm believer in it.  Why not be thankful your DH has a job, your health, your bed you sleep in, every meal you eat.  There is MUCH much more that can be taken from you and it shouldn't take you losing everything for you to realize what you had all along. 

 

LillysMommy0116
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:49 AM

I agree.

Quoting thehairnazi:

trying to understand what you wrote..you live with your parents.. but 'they are assholes and won't help"? wow. you feel like 'toys for tots isn't good enough'? wth, when people don't appreciate things they've been given..GIVEN!..its no wonder some people don't want to help, the assholes, i mean. hopefully, you're situation will change, but i think you have to be proactive at some point, you can't just continue to wait for someone else to change it for you. i know its hard right now, but geez!



Proud Mommy of two RUGRATS

unforgettablesj
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:57 AM

Christmas is a time to reflect on our true blessings and that is life itself.  Christmas represents the birth of Jesus (even though it's not His true birthday) , His goodness and mercy for all mankind.  Jesus endured for us, think of His journey with the cross, what we go through is no comparison.  Read John 2:1-11, it talks about when you get what you did not ask for.  Jesus was told there was no more wine, He gave them water.  They asked for wine.  They were obiedient and took the water to the people and when they got it to them it was wine.  They carried the pot, they had faith.  God moves in His own time.  When you don't get what you ask for...keep holding on. 

When Jesus gave them the water, they didn't complain and put it down, the took action and carried it.  God gives us the power, we have to make the journey and take action.  To do something you will have more than if you do nothing. 

I will be 40 in 2009, when my father was a young boy he remenbers getting a box for Christmas with fruit, nuts, a piece of candy and a pair of socks in it.  That was all his family could afford, but he always had food, a roof over his head and the love of his family surrounded him.  He grew up to be a very successful entrepreneur, but the values that he learned came during the lean times of his life.  He learned about what was really most important.

Keep trying.  You never know who is watching and what blessings await you just around the bend.  I know it may seem hopeless with your car situation, but keep carrying that pot of water, it's all about what you are doing with what you have.  There's angels all around so you never know from where your blessings will come.  Find peace and be kind to yourself and to others.  Keep carrying your pot because I am carrying mine.  Have a haapy and healthy holiday!

Abundant Regards,

Sherri

sgilbert211
by on Dec. 17, 2008 at 8:59 AM


Quoting thehairnazi:

trying to understand what you wrote..you live with your parents.. but 'they are assholes and won't help"? wow. you feel like 'toys for tots isn't good enough'? wth, when people don't appreciate things they've been given..GIVEN!..its no wonder some people don't want to help, the assholes, i mean. hopefully, you're situation will change, but i think you have to be proactive at some point, you can't just continue to wait for someone else to change it for you. i know its hard right now, but geez!

Exactly what I was thinking. Be grateful for what you have. There are families alot worse off then you. I do hope you have a very Merry Christmas. Hopefully 2009 we will better for you guys!


                                       

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