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Posted by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:04 AM
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my husband, who has never not wanted sex in our relationship EVER, did not want sex all day yesterday. not only did he not want it, he got really agitated the few times i came on to him. then when i apologized for agitating him, he got even more pissed off and was really rude to me. i even got down to a thong in bed and scooted my ass up to him (which always works) and he scooted away.

then i noticed today that he deleted the history on the computer while i was out running a few errands.

if you were in my situation, would this be enough to get your wheels turning? would you be suspicious? what would you do? or am i overreacting? (i say "if you were in my situation" because if internet porn is fine in your marriage or your hubby doesn't want sex all the time and you're just going to tell me to get over it, spare me. put yourself in MY shoes for a minute and let me know how you'd feel.) thanks!

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doublethejoy616
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:07 AM

I'd be a little but concerned if I were you, but there could be a better explanation.  Maybe he's embarrassed about something?  Like maybe he has a zit or something "down there" and was researching it online?  If it continues I'd definitely talk to him about it.


ain-gell72
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:08 AM

anything that happens out of the norm in any marriage, should and will cause alarms to go off. the thing to do is talk to him before you acuse him! tell him how you feel, then give him enough time to respond with how he feels. i warn you, may take him a few minutes or hours even to back to you! ( learned that the hard way)

TadpolesMommy
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:09 AM

the way i am, id be suspicious. then again, i am a suspicious person. however, at times my husband has refused sex only to get on the internet and jack off. nothing hurt me more than that...but he'd tell me it was bc he didnt feel like putting any effort into sex. maybe he got on the internet to do the same thing, but then deleted the history so you wouldnt get offended. i dont think its a cheating thing or anything like that. did you guys just get married?

Quoting maryinger:

my husband, who has never not wanted sex in our relationship EVER, did not want sex all day yesterday. not only did he not want it, he got really agitated the few times i came on to him. then when i apologized for agitating him, he got even more pissed off and was really rude to me. i even got down to a thong in bed and scooted my ass up to him (which always works) and he scooted away.

then i noticed today that he deleted the history on the computer while i was out running a few errands.

if you were in my situation, would this be enough to get your wheels turning? would you be suspicious? what would you do? or am i overreacting? (i say "if you were in my situation" because if internet porn is fine in your marriage or your hubby doesn't want sex all the time and you're just going to tell me to get over it, spare me. put yourself in MY shoes for a minute and let me know how you'd feel.) thanks!


Kristyn..Mommy to Talon, Wife to a police officer/soldier named Mathew =)
margarita time

25beengoodtome
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:11 AM

Maybe your man is having some erectile problems - and will not admit to it. that would explain his anger and rudeness.

maryinger
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:13 AM

yes we just got married a month and a half ago but we've been together a year and a half. and never once has he not wanted sex...

Quoting TadpolesMommy:

the way i am, id be suspicious. then again, i am a suspicious person. however, at times my husband has refused sex only to get on the internet and jack off. nothing hurt me more than that...but he'd tell me it was bc he didnt feel like putting any effort into sex. maybe he got on the internet to do the same thing, but then deleted the history so you wouldnt get offended. i dont think its a cheating thing or anything like that. did you guys just get married?

Quoting maryinger:

my husband, who has never not wanted sex in our relationship EVER, did not want sex all day yesterday. not only did he not want it, he got really agitated the few times i came on to him. then when i apologized for agitating him, he got even more pissed off and was really rude to me. i even got down to a thong in bed and scooted my ass up to him (which always works) and he scooted away.

then i noticed today that he deleted the history on the computer while i was out running a few errands.

if you were in my situation, would this be enough to get your wheels turning? would you be suspicious? what would you do? or am i overreacting? (i say "if you were in my situation" because if internet porn is fine in your marriage or your hubby doesn't want sex all the time and you're just going to tell me to get over it, spare me. put yourself in MY shoes for a minute and let me know how you'd feel.) thanks!

 


crazyboutbabies
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:15 AM

I'd see how today and the next go, try talking to him about it sensitively.

If you understand the internet porn thing let him know you feel ok about it for once in awhile.

Ask him if he is feeling ok, it could be something serious such as diabetes....that factors a slow sex drive!

KaseyHickman
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:17 AM

I trust my husband but if he started acting like that I would get suspicious and Im not a suspicious person at all.

I'm a mother first and a wife second. I love my life.  My hubby and I are going to start trying to have another Baby! Happy Holiday To everyone! God Bless!

TadpolesMommy
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:18 AM

if i were you,i would just pay attention to see if it continues. sometimes we dont feel like having sex, so it could have being that for him..not wanting to out the effort in. my husband is like that, always wants sex-but sometimes just truly doesnt feel like it. orr he could have just been in a shitty mood and everything was irritating him. who knows! just watch to see if it develops into a pattern. id also ask him why he was acting that way. good luck and keep us updated!

Quoting maryinger:

yes we just got married a month and a half ago but we've been together a year and a half. and never once has he not wanted sex...

Quoting TadpolesMommy:

the way i am, id be suspicious. then again, i am a suspicious person. however, at times my husband has refused sex only to get on the internet and jack off. nothing hurt me more than that...but he'd tell me it was bc he didnt feel like putting any effort into sex. maybe he got on the internet to do the same thing, but then deleted the history so you wouldnt get offended. i dont think its a cheating thing or anything like that. did you guys just get married?

Quoting maryinger:

my husband, who has never not wanted sex in our relationship EVER, did not want sex all day yesterday. not only did he not want it, he got really agitated the few times i came on to him. then when i apologized for agitating him, he got even more pissed off and was really rude to me. i even got down to a thong in bed and scooted my ass up to him (which always works) and he scooted away.

then i noticed today that he deleted the history on the computer while i was out running a few errands.

if you were in my situation, would this be enough to get your wheels turning? would you be suspicious? what would you do? or am i overreacting? (i say "if you were in my situation" because if internet porn is fine in your marriage or your hubby doesn't want sex all the time and you're just going to tell me to get over it, spare me. put yourself in MY shoes for a minute and let me know how you'd feel.) thanks!

 

 


Kristyn..Mommy to Talon, Wife to a police officer/soldier named Mathew =)
margarita time

maryinger
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:28 AM

i guess it just seems more strange to me because we haven't had sex in 4 days which is very unusual for us, especially since the oldest 2 kids aren't here this week.....

Quoting KaseyHickman:

I trust my husband but if he started acting like that I would get suspicious and Im not a suspicious person at all.


maryinger
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 10:59 AM

thanks for all the responses. i guess i'm just going to wait a couple of days and see if his behavior changes and if it doesn't, talk to him calmly about it. i just have this terrible feeling that it's someone else, and i don't know why.....

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