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Re: Problem with hubby

Posted by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 2:13 PM
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Does anybody have the same problem with their husband/fiance/boyfriend? My fiance doesn't do much around the house and has the peter pan syndrome going on. He will come home at night, eat dinner and not spend much time with his son and then take a nap until 11pm ....which is the time I go to bed. I think he is trying to avoid me or something! He wants to sleep all day until 6pm on the weekends and hardly goes anywhere with us when going to family functions and what not.  Has anybody else found this to be true? And in the past I have caught him looking at porn while I am in bed.

by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 2:13 PM
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Iluvjandkplus8
by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 2:20 PM
My husband works nights so he should sleep all day but he doesn't. He would rather spend time with me and his boys. What he is doing seems selfish. I would talk to him. Lindsay
WhiteTigerLily
by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 2:20 PM

Some of the first signs of depression are the ones you have listed here. Uninterested in family / friends, sleeps alot, not interested in family outings or wanting to leave the house. It probly isn't you, maybe you should sit down and have a serious conversation with him and find out what is going on with him. He could be stressed about something.

dilateyourmind
by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 10:02 PM

Please don't marry him. Thats exactly why I left my ex-husband of 10 years. It doesn't get better it gets worse.

Not trying to hate, just educate. Just because its my opinion, doesn't mean I think I know whats best for you. Its just another perspective.



allysmom2359
by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 10:07 PM

My husband works nights, so he sleeps all day, wakes up ,eats dinner, then heads to work. My daughter and I only spend about 2 hours a day with him, so I pretty much am alone in the housework and errands department. He does spoil us both rotten, and on his days off, he makes up for the lost time. I agree with the comment about not marrying this guy.

in loveWife to Marcus toddler girlMommy to Allison rose

justlikeheaven
by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 10:08 PM

My husband does that most of the time, but he's tired from work. He's been some better about it here recently, though. Is he maybe just really tired? I dunno I think most women will tell you getting a man to do housework is like pulling teeth lol I think most men look at porn too. It's too easy when it's right at their fingertips.

Have to tried talking to him about it....like without being nasty to him about it?

mommyxina2008
by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 10:14 PM

Agreed.

Quoting dilateyourmind:

Please don't marry him. Thats exactly why I left my ex-husband of 10 years. It doesn't get better it gets worse.


c_disario
by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 10:14 PM

are you kidding you just described my fiance in a nut shell, but no he doesnt do it to avoid me I actually work and he is home with atie baby any by the time i get home he is exausted and his relaxtion in video games so he is a lil child when i get home.... but he is a great father, he is only 21 i am 22 but I do see your point.... my dh does it and i know why for me its ok, if you husband doesnt have a reason or you dont know why he is having this behavior then there is a problem.... i wish you luck

LawsonGirlz
by on Jan. 25, 2009 at 10:28 PM

Before deciding not to marry the guy I would suggest talking to him first.  He may not realize the problem. Yes he could be depressed as well which can happen to anyone and should be confronted with help not rejection.  Pray!!! Prayer does wonders. After all this then maybe you should think twice about marraige.

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