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baby Shower question

Posted by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 11:50 AM
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I am having another girl. I had a shower with my first but it was more of a party both men and woman food and even a DJ. I din't ask for or receive anything big, (We purchased our own crib, car seat etc...)

So with this one my mom is throwing me a "surprise" shower I know there is one but that's all the details I know, most of the people coming did not attend the first shower.  Again I am not asking for anything big we can recycle most of the stuff from my first.

My mother in law ( who I think may be one of the worst in history) is making my hubby feel bad saying that I am being selfish. First of all I didn't plan it my mom is doing everthing and no one else is bitching about it. 2nd I am asking for diapers wipes onesies.....Again most of the infant stuff will be recycled.  I don't think this poor baby shouldn't have anything new.......

My Grandmother purchased a bassinet for the new baby, my first was in my hubby's old one. My mother in law told my hubby it was a waste of money and stupid when the baby will only be in it for like 3 months. It is a beautiful crib that one day will be able to be handed down to my girls.

So what does everyone think of more than one shower? Would it be ok if it was the opposit sex? Should I tell my MIL to get over it because she is really the only one complainig.

Also the party is only for woman, and my mom has told me some things will be more for me because we all know how momma's get screwed.........

 



 


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jackiemerc1
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 11:57 AM

Anyone??????

 



 


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jajamama
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 11:59 AM

25 years ago u have one shower u could have 12 babies but one shower.  now most people have a shower for every child. its okay and your mom is  doing this because she loves you and wants to share in the preagnancy with you so let her do it if u cancel the shower she will crushed and as for MIL welltell her to get off her high horse and be nice or she wont see the baby at all

disaesor
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 12:00 PM

PERSONALLY, I think you should tell her to stfu and she sounds jealous. Your baby should have some new things and it's something your mom wants to do for you. Maybe she's just upset that she didnt think of it first. Enjoy yourself and your new baby girl! 


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vegepunkstr
by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2009 at 12:00 PM

I think its fine. Its a celebration of a new baby to come not just a "give me stuff" party. Diapers are damn expensive too and babies go through a lot so she should just not go to it if she disapproves so much. Dont let her ruin the fun.

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sallymoon
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 12:04 PM

I see no problem with having another shower.   Every child should be celebrated.  If you're at all concerned about looking greedy, just leave registry info out of the invitations (word of mouth works just fine).  There are all kinds of absurd unwritten rules to baby showers, and most of them are BS.  If your MIL has a problem, she doesn't have to go!


jackiemerc1
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 12:04 PM

Thanks!

 



 


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ElaineReads
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 12:07 PM

I don't have a problem with girls having more than one baby shower.  I had two showers for my first pregnancy, and one for each my second and third pregnancy.  Personally I think your MIL is just looking for things to nitpick and she needs to keep her nose out of it.  It's not like you're asking HER for anything.  If she can't "get on board" tell her she's not welcome.  Enjoy yourself!

Edit: Is there any chance your MIL is behaving this way because it wasn't her idea OR she feels left out?  Jealousy tends to bring out the worst in people (especially MILs).


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jackiemerc1
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 12:15 PM

Actually my MIL is a very negative person and currently my daughter isn't allowed to be around her for long periods of time.....She also dislikes me and HATES my mom.....

 



 


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Baby Gianna               Sophia                  Jackie                      Adam




 




 




 




 




 

lucky2Beeme
by Platinum Member on Feb. 13, 2009 at 1:01 PM

  I would ignore your MIl.This isnt your typical baby shower where youve picked out ridiculousy expensive things.It's your mom's way of celebrating a new grandchild.Dont talk about it with MIL anymore.If she tells your hubby say please dont tell me anything she says about it.

proudnewmommyy
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 1:05 PM

Don't listen to her. She sounds full of crap. If your mom wants to throw you a baby shower for your 2nd, let her! why not? What could the harm be? My mom threw my first baby shower and went all out, and If I get pregnant again, she'll probably have another one, that's just the way my mom is! lol

Enjoy your pregnancy, your party, your kids and don't listen to your MIL, she should butt out

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