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Posted by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 1:32 PM
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my son is 2 and 8 months and everyone including the dr says he should be trained by now. he is definatly almost there but my issues is this: when naked or with no pants on he will pee and poop on the poty with noproblem, never fails. but if he has a pull up or even just underwera on he will not use the poty he will hide and go somewhere. its almost liek a game to see if he can do it in his pants before i catch him. is this a control thing? i know he knows when he has to go because like i said when he is naked he goes perfectly. how do i get him trained fully? why wont he go on the potty when he has underwear on? thanks ladies

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Iluvjandkplus8
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:05 PM
I don't have any advice but you are doing something right. My son wasn't fully potty trained until 3-late 3. I've always heard boys are harder to train than girls. Lindsay
happytexasCM
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:06 PM

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my son is 2 and 8 months and everyone including the dr says he should be trained by now. he is definatly almost there but my issues is this: when naked or with no pants on he will pee and poop on the poty with noproblem, never fails. but if he has a pull up or even just underwera on he will not use the poty he will hide and go somewhere. its almost liek a game to see if he can do it in his pants before i catch him. is this a control thing? i know he knows when he has to go because like i said when he is naked he goes perfectly. how do i get him trained fully? why wont he go on the potty when he has underwear on? thanks ladies

Tell everyone to shove it.  Boys generally take longer than girls.  Even when my son was trained for pee, it took several months before he wansn't pooping at night.  He was not interested much in potty training and didn't even take it "seriously" until he was three.  Unless you are ECing (obviously not) it happens when they are ready.

williesmama1
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:09 PM

My son was also trained as a late 3.  Every kid is different.  Sounds like you're doing okay, and when he's fully ready he'll let you know.  I can't stand people that say just because others were potty trained at a certain age, that has to be the age.  I also think it's wrong of your dr to pass judgement.

Quoting Iluvjandkplus8:

I don't have any advice but you are doing something right. My son wasn't fully potty trained until 3-late 3. I've always heard boys are harder to train than girls. Lindsay


KristyCT
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:53 PM

 I just posted an answer to this question the other day -- here is what I said to the other mom (excuse the "he's" in it, I just copied and paste what I suggessted to her) I used to work in the early education field and I just got finished potty training my son.

Truthfully  boys may not be fully ready till 3 years 4 months to complete the process and stop having accidents (girls much earlier can grasp the concept, but still they will depict when they are ready and the pace). We started around 1 1/2 just leaving the potty out, letting him follow us in, reading books about it, let Mr. bear or a doll sit on it and role play about it. But truely, My son just started getting it in December (he will be 3 late February) but we are still working on the fininshing touches. (so3 months before his third birthday was when he started actually trying to go on it and understand what was going to happen)

You have to first make sure he/she is ready and look for the signs.

- does he ever tell you he is wet, has poop to be changed or does he tell you when he is going in his diaper/pull up?

- does he stay dry for extended periods of time? that means it will be easier to schedule him to try and his bladder is ready/has more control. Help you find times to get him on the toilet with sucess and praise.

- can you tell when he is going (if he is going to poop - does he go squat behind the couch or something, if he needs to pee - usually they stop what ever they are doing and sort of stare into space for a second) these signs will help you notice when he is about to go so you can escort and encourage him to the potty.

I used to carry my sons potty seat into each room (f he went in basement playroom - i took it down there since if he was just starting he may not be able to hold it all the way to the bathroom) also it was a visual reminder right there if he started to go. I also put stools in the other bathrooms so we could go to the nearest one or his choice. You want to get him used to a big potty to since restaurants, malls, friends houses are not likely to have a kid potty.

We talked about family who wore "big boy/girl" underwear (he looks up to some of his cousins so they will even say to him...are you going to wear underwear like me)

PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE: so important -- dont focus on the accidents/defiance as much as you do the little strides he makes. The more positive you are about it the more willingly hell comply. If he is extremely defiant about even sitting - dont push him. Stop and wait a week to try again. You dont want to make it a bad experience full of pressure.

Books: We bought books which we leave in the bathrooms so when he sits he can look at them (often a kid will sit for 2 seconds and pop up -- you have to get him to sit for a little so the muscles loosen and let the pee/poo come out, once he starts to understand that sensation he will sit and wait for it but at first they dont know what they are waiting for) Think about it -- he knows there is pee in the diaper because you say so when changing him - but he has never seen it come out so does he really understand what it is. Potty books also explain the process to them and are a fun way to learn about the potty. Elmo also has a DVD out about the potty (my daycare gave us the one from pullups, but it didnt captivate his attention it was more for parents)

We used to let our son come in the bathroom with us. I would be a little dramatic and say -- oh I have to go potty, hurry hurry before I have an accident (and I would scurry down the hall - I didnt let him see me actually going but I would say -- do you hear my pee coming out? I would also encourage him to go in with is father a couple times as then he could really see what pee is and how boys do it. This all depends on your comfort level though. If you are not comfortable with this, buy one of the dolls that pees and do the same. You have to role play in it and seems excited, energetic...to get your kid to feel the same. They sell many of these dolls - just google it.

I got this great little book at Borders, it tells you many different ways to potty train (the one day method, the slow method...) Also great resource for problems and questions:

"Mommy Rescue Guide, Potty Training" Lifesaving techniques and advice for an easy transition, by Linda Sonna PH.D.  Its a little green book.

Good luck! and take your time, he is still young. my friends son got it at age 2 though, so you can start when ever and go at their pace. It all depends on their level of maturity, temperment, comprehension, physical attributes...They will all of a sudden just do it when they are ready.

Kristy




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