I was wondering if anyone had some good advice for me. My Husband is a Police Officer and I recently caught him cheating on me with someone else. I was so devestated and come to find out his mistress was 3 months pregnant with his child. When I found out of course my husband stopped seeing her she is half his age 20 years old he is 41 anyways after everything I am still mad and hurt and I told him he was to have nothing to do with her or the baby. Well she had the baby in January of 08. It was a little girl, I have 3 boys and always wanted a little girl and she got it so I decided we also should have another baby and we are. I'm due in May only a few weeks away and I'm having a boy. I still think my husband is seeing the girl and child as well. I don't know what to do and really can't talk to my friends they all have some criticism divorce him etc. I Love my husband. Do you think the baby will put more stress on the marriage? Was it the right thing to do have another baby we already have 3 other boys. I think he only had the baby to make me happy he's not. I wonder if he loves this other woman. I really think he only stays for our boys. We hardly speak or ever affectionate with each other. Are we just dragging a failed marriage out? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks for reading.
I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I couldn't do it, ahve another kid with him, and stay with him. By what you have explained, I believe you two are dragging it on. Whether you may think it is good for the kids, it really isn't. Eventually they will feel the tension, and lack of love for eachother. My husband and I had this discussion the other day. We told eachother we feel as though we are no longer in love, and we need to figure this out soon, as to not drang our lil girl into our lack of love for eachother. You need to get the facts, as to whether or not he is seeing this other woman. Good luck to you.
EDIT..... Sit down and have a mature conversation about this. get things straight and figure this all out.
I think its just cuz she made her page today.. and maybe one reason she did was to get advice. I know I took a while to create or add anything to mine.
As to the OP I think maybe you need to talk to your husband and maybe its you who wants to make this marriage to work more than him and it might have been a bad idea to get preggo just because she was. I think you might be prolonging a divorce that you know needs to happen. Talk to your husband, maybe try marriage counseling and see if that can fix somethings. And your friends reactions are only normal. I would say the same thing. GL
Quoting CODYSMOM_00:
why don't you have any info on your page??????? hum.........
Make a pregnancy ticker
well I would have thought that having another baby would be a bad idea in that situation!!! The baby girl is his, no matter if he was cheating on you or not so he needs to take care of her. I would have left him as soon as I found out he was cheating on me!! It obviously was not a 1 time thing so ya I dont see how women can stay with thier husband after he has an affair!!
Just because she doesn't have anything on her page? When I first joined CM I didn't have anything on my page either.And it's not like she is posting a drama post(because then I could understand your suspicion),she's looking for advice.Chill out.
Anyway OP,I don't have any advice,but I will BUMP your post.
Quoting CODYSMOM_00:
seems like a troll to me.
Quoting IloveHayden08:
well I would have thought that having another baby would be a bad idea in that situation!!! The baby girl is his, no matter if he was cheating on you or not so he needs to take care of her. I would have left him as soon as I found out he was cheating on me!! It obviously was not a 1 time thing so ya I dont see how women can stay with thier husband after he has an affair!!
Agreed. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal, not to mention he most likely didn't use protection since he now has a daughter. He is responsible for the little girl like it or not.
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on May. 9, 2009 at 11:25 PM