OMG I was not prepaired for this! EDITED IN RED!
Ok some background info about 2 months ago my ds said that some kids were making fun of him because they said he kissed a girl at after-school care. He said "mom I didnt do it girls are gross" anyways brushed it off told him not to kiss girls and all that good stuff.
Well we went to Kentucky to surprise my MIL for mothers day and while we were there my niece (she is 5 also) and my ds were caught under the blanket touching eachother's privates!! I just about died when we found them. I had no idea what to say to the both of them. So we (my SIL and me) sit down and have a talk with the both of them and the lil girl says that she doesnt like playing "spiddy" any more. What the hell is "spiddy"?
Earlier in the day they said they were going in the playroom to play "spiddy" that is what they were calling touching eachother! At the time we didnt know what they were doing. My son is a HUGE spider-man fan so we assumed they were just pretending. Well anyways I ask my son what spiddy was and he wouldnt tell me so I said show me. And I was sitting outside with him and his put his hand on my knee and moved up my leg like he was a spider.
OMG I just wanted to cry HOW IN THE HELL DOES MY SON KNOW HOW TO DO THIS!!! So I asked him and he said that one of the girls in his after-school program does it to him. It was the same girl he had gotten teased for "kissing".
So now what??? Do I confront this lil girls parents?
My son just had open-heart surgery a month ago so he is not in school or in the after-school program until the next school year!
The first thing that popped into my head was what if someone older showed this lil girl this??? I just dont know what to do! My bf did go up to the school today to get my ds graduation info and mentioned this to his teacher, but I have not had a chance to ask him what she said!
any advice would be very helpful!
I really was not prepaired for this at 5 years old!!!
So I called my ds pre-k teacher and she is very concerned! This lil girl that showed my ds "spiddy" has several older middle school kids in and out of her house and has showed other signs of "problems" at home. She also said that she is not even alowed to go to the after-school program anymore (she couldnt tell me why) the only thing she could say was there was another incident that prevented her from going. So we have a meeting scheduled at school with this lil girl's mom and her bf. I hope everything goes ok! Thank you so much ladies for your advice!
Whoa! Hell yeah I'd ask the school to schedule a meeting with you and the little girls parents. And where the heck did she learn that. I'd be sick to my stomach.
Quoting raleighmom:
Whoa! Hell yeah I'd ask the school to schedule a meeting with you and the little girls parents. And where the heck did she learn that. I'd be sick to my stomach.
I am sick to my stomach just typing it!
See that is really where I am very concerned Where did she learn it?
Yes I would talk to the director of the program and the girls parents. I wouldnt have been prepared for it either. Everything my 9 y/o knows she learned from school so when its time for me to tell her anything I wont have too, she would probably be able to tell me more than I can tell her. That is sad.
Confronting the girl's parents will probably make the situatuion worse cus they may deny it or even accuse your son of stating the touching. I think that you should just have a talk with your son about the parts of the male and female body and disscuss the good and bad touch and what he should do if it happens again.
Quoting lilblu399:
Confronting the girl's parents will probably make the situatuion worse cus they may deny it or even accuse your son of stating the touching. I think that you should just have a talk with your son about the parts of the male and female body and disscuss the good and bad touch and what he should do if it happens again.
See this is why I have not confronted them yet, but what if they dont know she does this? What if there is someone else at the after-school program that is doing it to her? What if it is someone older? The after-school program is part of a daycare program. Ages newborn to 13 years old.
I would talk to her parents.. But as a former daycare teacher let me assure she is not the only little girl out there that does this. We had a little girl who would get under the table and rub on little boys. It was horrifying to think where she learned this behavor, we also had several kids who were sexually abused and the things they would do to the dolls was scarey.. so definitely talk to the parents, if it is not them then it may be someone else.
i am soo sorry i totally would be freaked out too! My son is going to be 5 in a few short months and i totally would not know how to react. I think even thought your son is no longer going to be in school or the afterschool program for the rest of the year i think you should go down to the program and talk to the teachers who are in charge of this program because first they shouldnt be allowing this to go on and then i would talk to this little girls parents. and let them know whats going on because if someone older is teaching her these things im sure her parents would be glad you told them so they could stop it now before it gets worse.
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