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Have you noticed?

Posted by on May. 24, 2009 at 2:36 AM
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I went to Target today for some baby food and noticed like 6 girls that were HUGELY pregnant. I mean girls not women.  They couldn't have been much older than 17. One seriously was 14 (I know this because she was complaining to her mom about how uncomfortable she was and her mom told her that's what happens when you get pregnant at 14). This is just sad to me. I would hope that they would wait to get pregnant until they at least finished high school. I know that shit happens but that was a lot of girls all around 7-9 months pregnant.

BTW- I don't think your age has anything to do with how good a mom you are. I just think that you should finish high school, go to college, party a little (if you're into that), get married and live life before you start a family. There's so much you miss out on if you start having babies that young!

by on May. 24, 2009 at 2:36 AM
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miasmom929
by on May. 24, 2009 at 2:44 AM

I had my daughter at 16 years old, and as much as I love her I do wish that I would have had her closer to my age now (25).  I missed out on a lot of college fun and friends. I was blessed with her though....

Amybelle
by on May. 24, 2009 at 2:46 AM

IDK where you are but around here (S.F.Bay Area)  it's the TOTAL opposite. The Young women around here are  getting  their education & starting their careers not having babies.

MumsTheWord571
by on May. 24, 2009 at 2:48 AM

Good for you taking care of your baby! All of my family have kids before 18- I was an oddity starting my family at 27. I am sure she adores you!

I do think that you miss out on so much when you start so young.

Quoting miasmom929:

I had my daughter at 16 years old, and as much as I love her I do wish that I would have had her closer to my age now (25).  I missed out on a lot of college fun and friends. I was blessed with her though....


junecrab
by on May. 24, 2009 at 2:50 AM

my daughter has a few friends and bonus cousins ( my girlfriends kids ) have kids this school year or are pregnant now.  thankfully we have always talked. and she talks to these girls for hours on the phone sometimes (before they actually are pregnant). telling them they are stupid not to protect themselves. she is very well informed. she also goes to planned parenthood, we went together the first time. she is now 18 and has had her one and only boyfriend now for 2 years. she will be starting college this fall. i could not be prouder.

it is a sad fact so many ways of preventing pregnacy and still these girls dont use it.

...hope for a people...smile on


junecrab

...all the love you've been giving has all been meant for you...♥

MumsTheWord571
by on May. 24, 2009 at 2:51 AM

I live in Los Angeles. It's the norm to have babies between 16 and 20 or so here. Most of the girls I went to high school with had kids before we graduated OR were pregnant on our graduation date!

Quoting Amybelle:

IDK where you are but around here (S.F.Bay Area)  it's the TOTAL opposite. The Young women around here are  getting  their education & starting their careers not having babies.


MumsTheWord571
by on May. 24, 2009 at 2:56 AM

And good for you for being so open with your daughter! I have a little boy and when he is old enough both my DH and I will let him know that if he wants to have sex we will buy him condoms! and to ask his g/f to get on birth control! I'd rather know my DS is sexually active than to find out he will be a father at such a young age! My Mom offered us birth control when we were 14. I took it. my sister didn't. Now she's in a verbally/mentally abusive/manipulative relationship and unhappy.

Funny thing my brother is 14 and dating a 16 year old girl and my Mom asked my DH to buy him condoms because he has been caught with porn and stuff and also been caught rounding second base with his girlfriend. Again, rather protect him than to have him have a baby so young!

Quoting junecrab:

my daughter has a few friends and bonus cousins ( my girlfriends kids ) have kids this school year or are pregnant now.  thankfully we have always talked. and she talks to these girls for hours on the phone sometimes (before they actually are pregnant). telling them they are stupid not to protect themselves. she is very well informed. she also goes to planned parenthood, we went together the first time. she is now 18 and has had her one and only boyfriend now for 2 years. she will be starting college this fall. i could not be prouder.

it is a sad fact so many ways of preventing pregnacy and still these girls dont use it.

...hope for a people...smile on


mymichelle2002
by on May. 24, 2009 at 3:15 AM

Vegas has had daycares in the highschools for 10 years now.

Quoting MumsTheWord571:

I live in Los Angeles. It's the norm to have babies between 16 and 20 or so here. Most of the girls I went to high school with had kids before we graduated OR were pregnant on our graduation date!

Quoting Amybelle:

IDK where you are but around here (S.F.Bay Area)  it's the TOTAL opposite. The Young women around here are  getting  their education & starting their careers not having babies.

 


ilovedrake4ever
by on May. 24, 2009 at 3:27 AM

I'm 19 and 35.6 weeks pregnant with my second. Me and my husband had planned my son when I was 17, I was 2 weeks from getting out of school and 2 months from being 18. We both worked, he worked full time and me part due to school. The day I turned 18 I moved in with my husband and i worked full time. At the beginning of this pregnancy I was working full time and going to school for cosmetology and my husband worked full time. At 20 weeks I got put on on bed rest and had to stop both. I may have had kids young but I sure don't regret it and think I'm doing a great job.

ilovedrake4ever
by on May. 24, 2009 at 3:31 AM

I had 50 high schools in my area and mine was the only one with a day care for teens to go when they have kids or get pregnant. It was not free I do believe it was 200 a month or something like that. Every teen got sent to my school if they got pregnant. My school was so full of people that there wern't even enough desks for the students in the classrooms some had to sit on the floor!! But of course the pregnant ones got the right to chose if they wanted a desk or floor first just becuase they got pregnant! It was bad specially out 30-40 desks in the classroom 75% of them had pregnant teens in them!

ReniesMommy
by on May. 24, 2009 at 3:41 AM

Here in Idaho teen pregnancy, unfortunately, is very common. I grew up in a pretty sheltered city close to L.A. At my high school there, no one had babies while still in high school. It just wasn't the norm there. I moved to Idaho at the start of my senior year, & I was shocked when I was the only girl in my homeroom class who did not have a kid. I can't say much though, I got pregnant just after I graduated high school. Although, I have no regrets. I am where I am today because of DD. I wouldn't have done half of the things I've done in the last few years if it weren't for her.

Quoting MumsTheWord571:

I live in Los Angeles. It's the norm to have babies between 16 and 20 or so here. Most of the girls I went to high school with had kids before we graduated OR were pregnant on our graduation date!

Quoting Amybelle:

IDK where you are but around here (S.F.Bay Area)  it's the TOTAL opposite. The Young women around here are  getting  their education & starting their careers not having babies.



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