For anyone who is wealthy or knows wealthy people

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  • Sagely
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:08 PM

• Is it only inappropriate to discuss your financial situation if you are not struggling?

  
  

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  • GOBryan
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:09 PM

• That's very accurate. Wealth has nothing to do with snobbishness.
  

  Quoting Sagely:
  
  

  A snob is someone who rejects others for superficial reasons.  Which means, you don't have to be rich to be a snob.
  

  
  

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  • sarah969
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:10 PM

• I am rich and I know yep I have my own money tree in the back yard lol j/k
  

  no really we are poor my family is poor The only person I know that has money is my dad boss he own most of the town and he makes sure you know it
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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  • DonnaJ1970
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:10 PM

• I know lower income people who talk about what they buy their children etc so I see no difference in what I or others buy and how we also talk about it. Am I suppose to say nothing while those around me who are lower income discuss their families and what they buy?  I certainly am not missing anything....

  Donna

  
  

  

  
  

  Wife to David

  
  

  Mommy to Austin and April

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  • AngelicMommy_72
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:11 PM

• yeah, i know... i've had one of those... n i'm glad i can say that in PAST tense... lol.  but it's mainly becuz of her that i learn to shrug crap like that off my shoulders...

   

  if y'all are talking about who i think you're talking about... some yuppy mommy or some crap like that  lmfao, (i'm really clueless to who she is thus far) i've read some complaints about her on LOTS of posts on here... and i just read there is a Group for mommies with money, she might be tons more welcome there. lmfao.
  

  Quoting maryanna1:
  
  

  I definitely agree with this to a point...but when someone is constantly rubbing things in others faces..it's more annoying then anything.   I really don't care what anyone has.  I am not wealthy, but I can afford to get my family and I everything we need and want.  My husband works really hard for us to do this, he works a lot of over-time but we aren't deprived in any way.  But if I had a friend that was constantly rubbing this kind of stuff in my face...I wouldn't be their friend.  I think it's tacky and rude and nobody needs to know how much money you have or what you have.

  Quoting Sagely:
  
  

  Well said.
  

  Quoting AngelicMommy_72:
  
  

  There's such a thing as being classy when you're poor too, believe it or not... and one of the things i was raised with was never to "notice" or "envy" other people and their excess. who cares if so and so can afford to buy this or that, the truth is, money supplies relief, but it does not buy happiness. if you're worried about people and their "bragging" about things they have.... maybe just maybe, it's more your problem than it is theirs.

  and this is coming from a girl raised in the projects and currently living only steps above that... so yeah. lol.

  
  

   

  
  

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  • maryanna1
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:11 PM

• I just have to say that I did see a post where someone was like OMG I just spent $2000 dollars this week on a new bed and a TV or something like that and you were on there and of course had to one up them b/c you spent like $7000 that week.  You bought two things one was $5000 and one was $2000.  So you do flaunt it and you always have to one up people. 
  

  Quoting YuppyMom:
  
  

  Certain things here are off limits to everyone.  I am not about to tell anyone how much money we have invested or how much my husband makes or the value of my home in exacting numbers.  That is just tacky...to ask or to share.  It's like that unwritten rule that you never ask someone how much they make.

  Other things are contextual.  For example, in a forum such as this...if someone asks "What did you spend on Christmas"...I feel as welcome to participate as any other member here.  BUt I won't go shopping and come here and make a post that says "OMG, I just spent ___________  (insert amount)".  There are times it is appropriate and contexts in which it is a simple answer and others times when it is not.

  In person, I have found that I am middle of the road.  If someone asks, I will share.  I may share with my closest girlfriends what I spent on things and they also share with me and there is one-upmanship or anythinug involved.  Sometimes we may ask, out of sheer curiosity and nothing more.  I have friends who have a great deal and they run the gamut.  Some are very closed lipped and you would never even suspect they had two dimes to rub together and wear farmer jeans in public.  There are others that are total flaunts. 

  
  

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  • GOBryan
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:13 PM

• What you're mentioning, others do with lower figures, however, it's overlooked because the amount isn't high.
  

  Quoting maryanna1:
  
  

  I just have to say that I did see a post where someone was like OMG I just spent $2000 dollars this week on a new bed and a TV or something like that and you were on there and of course had to one up them b/c you spent like $7000 that week.  You bought two things one was $5000 and one was $2000.  So you do flaunt it and you always have to one up people. 

  Quoting YuppyMom:
  
  

  Certain things here are off limits to everyone.  I am not about to tell anyone how much money we have invested or how much my husband makes or the value of my home in exacting numbers.  That is just tacky...to ask or to share.  It's like that unwritten rule that you never ask someone how much they make.

  Other things are contextual.  For example, in a forum such as this...if someone asks "What did you spend on Christmas"...I feel as welcome to participate as any other member here.  BUt I won't go shopping and come here and make a post that says "OMG, I just spent ___________  (insert amount)".  There are times it is appropriate and contexts in which it is a simple answer and others times when it is not.

  In person, I have found that I am middle of the road.  If someone asks, I will share.  I may share with my closest girlfriends what I spent on things and they also share with me and there is one-upmanship or anythinug involved.  Sometimes we may ask, out of sheer curiosity and nothing more.  I have friends who have a great deal and they run the gamut.  Some are very closed lipped and you would never even suspect they had two dimes to rub together and wear farmer jeans in public.  There are others that are total flaunts. 

   

  
  

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  • YuppyMom
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:15 PM

• I am guessing that this is a perception issue for you.

  While I can not even recall said post....my bet is that they were "OMG I just spent 2000" and I was joining in with an "I feel your pain, we just spent ____________"

  I have no interest in flaunting however or one upping.  I live by the following (which my mother taught us well).  There will always be those with less and someone with more.  Be happy and content with where you are and feel blessed and share your feelings of blessing.  Help those with less and be able to say a heartfelt "good for you" for those with more.  Therein is contentment. 
  

  Quoting maryanna1:
  
  

  I just have to say that I did see a post where someone was like OMG I just spent $2000 dollars this week on a new bed and a TV or something like that and you were on there and of course had to one up them b/c you spent like $7000 that week.  You bought two things one was $5000 and one was $2000.  So you do flaunt it and you always have to one up people. 

  Quoting YuppyMom:
  
  

  Certain things here are off limits to everyone.  I am not about to tell anyone how much money we have invested or how much my husband makes or the value of my home in exacting numbers.  That is just tacky...to ask or to share.  It's like that unwritten rule that you never ask someone how much they make.

  Other things are contextual.  For example, in a forum such as this...if someone asks "What did you spend on Christmas"...I feel as welcome to participate as any other member here.  BUt I won't go shopping and come here and make a post that says "OMG, I just spent ___________  (insert amount)".  There are times it is appropriate and contexts in which it is a simple answer and others times when it is not.

  In person, I have found that I am middle of the road.  If someone asks, I will share.  I may share with my closest girlfriends what I spent on things and they also share with me and there is one-upmanship or anythinug involved.  Sometimes we may ask, out of sheer curiosity and nothing more.  I have friends who have a great deal and they run the gamut.  Some are very closed lipped and you would never even suspect they had two dimes to rub together and wear farmer jeans in public.  There are others that are total flaunts. 

   

  
  

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  • IzabelleMae
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:16 PM

• Being rich and loved is very extremly possible, but when you rub it in and are always bragging about everything you have or what you buy, you'll be hated by everyone around you. No matter who you are.
  

  Quoting GOBryan:
  
  

  How about rich and loved?? Very, very possible.
  

  Quoting mybabygirl32406:
  
  

  She is busy right now in post about spending her money once again..lol getting all the poor moms fired up.. Rather be poor and loved then rich and hated..lol. Plus I really like living in a box..lol
  

   

  
  

  

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  • GOBryan
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 9:20 PM

• And here is where lies the problem. Where one sees it as bragging, another sees it as just sharing. 

  In life, humanity has always tried to compare similar experiences and "one up" so to speak.. from an ailment to an object.. That's human nature and it doesn't mean anyone is bragging. It only appears that way to some of those that may not have reach that pennacle.

  I've read as much and didn't take it as bragging, however, I read about someone crying about being poor and realize that this is acceptable conversation.
  

  Quoting IzabelleMae:
  
  

  Being rich and loved is very extremly possible, but when you rub it in and are always bragging about everything you have or what you buy, you'll be hated by everyone around you. No matter who you are.

  Quoting GOBryan:
  
  

  How about rich and loved?? Very, very possible.
  

  Quoting mybabygirl32406:
  
  

  She is busy right now in post about spending her money once again..lol getting all the poor moms fired up.. Rather be poor and loved then rich and hated..lol. Plus I really like living in a box..lol
  

   

   

   

  
  

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