So DH & I KNEW from the first when we had kids that we wanted the BEST for them. We weren't married when I got PG but we had dedicated ourselves to each other. When we got pg with our 1st we talked about what e wanted for our children........we knew we wanted them to finish HS, go to College, live Life a little and MOST important Find the right partner before they became parents. We talked about what we needed to do make that happen. Some of the things we agreed were important....
#1. We will ALWAYS be an example of a GIVING relationship, we will put the other before ourselves & will show the JOY we get in sacrificing for each other.
#2 teach them to sacrifice for their siblings , Parents and friends, to look at what THEY can do for someone else.
#3 find them an activity that they Love.......EARLY........That they will have to work at, sacrifice for and takes hard work and dedication to be sucessful at. Our DD's both Danced competivitly, by their choice. They were often at the studio 15- 18 hrs a week. Our boys did Scouts, computers & science. They really didn't have alot of "free" time, their activities kept them VERY busy!
Of course Spiritual guidence and Lot's & lot's of Family time.
So far it has worked our older kids are 24, 21, 17 & 15 and they are amazing kids!! I'm soooo proud of them. I know that they have intelligence. maturity (for their age), and high standards. They will do what it takes to make the BEST of themselves!
Anyone else wanna share............
(BTW: we have 5 kids, 24, 21, 17, 15 & 2 1/2)
Do as you wish* But you can only teach and preach so much. My mother always talked to me about protection, I knew about diseases. She also stressed to me that I should WAIT until I was married before I had sex, and that Was my ultimate Plan. Never even kissed a boy until I was 15. I was his *girlfriend* for six months before I even gave him a little peck. He said all the right things, and I truly believed I would be with him forever. Needless to say, I ended up pregnant at 16. He turned out to be a loser, and I finished school, while I worked and I took care of my daughter financially. Of coarse my parents fed her because we lived with them, and they bought groceries. But I did the rest. MY daughter is 10 now and I am married to a wonderful man. I give my daughter the same values my mother gave me, and I can only HOPE she does the right thing, and doesn't make my *mistake* But I am greatful for that mistake. Who knows where I Would be in life if I didn't have my daughter to put first and take care of. It could be better, or worse. Never know. SO I personaly don't see it as a mistake.
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- Amybelle
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:02 AM