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Posted by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 9:57 PM
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Hi.  I am new to this group and I'm praying someone has some much needed advice.  This weekend has not been a fun one when it comes to bedtime.  Friday night she was up 4 times before finally falling asleep either saying she can not sleep or was hearing fireworks.  Last night was she went to bed late b/c of the holiday.  Then tonight she was up saying she could not sleep about 5 times.  Is she just trying to control me?  She does still take naps which I know is rare for her age.  (She turned 4 in February).  Is she telling me naps need to stop?  I am so confused and frustrated. Can anyone help??? 

by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 9:57 PM
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by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 10:01 PM

My daughter is 4 and very rarely takes naps. For her age I believe she still needs about 11 hours of sleep a night. So just stick to what you are doing. Put her to bed at bed time and if she gets up with minimal conversation bring her back to her room and tell her it is bedtime. And eventually she will just stop getting up since she will know she will not benefit from it.

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by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 10:07 PM

Children need naptime, even if they do not actually sleep.  Mommies need naptime, too. They need that resttime for their brains and bodies to recharge.  You need the quiet time, too.  If she is in her bed in the afternoon sleeping, that is great.  If she is in her bed in the afternoon being quiet and not sleeping, that is fine, too.

As for nighttime, if you keep going to her or let her keep coming to you, she will keep it up.  You know when something is really wrong.  You know the difference between the whine, the mad scream, and the something is really wrong cry.  Put her back to bed and make her stay there. 

I know many moms disagree with that, and that is okay.  That is how I do it, and my dd sleeps through the night.  She has been since 6 weeks old.

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by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 10:11 PM

my boys stoped napping at 2yrs old but my daughter still naps all kids are different try stopping the naps and see what happens you can always start them again if it doesn't work 

by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 10:12 PM

hey i totally understand i have a 4 yr. and she does take naps. she has to she gets really ill. what she does is get up and get up. i want water , i have to go to the bathroom. its just that she doesn't want to miss anything. at that age they thank they are missing out on stuff when its there bedtime. i just make sure that she sticks to routine and i  talk to her and  explain to her how sleeping is important. i talk to both of my kids so they understand what is going on. even if they might not understand its building your relationship with the kids. and if you listen they will come to you when things are bothing them. when my kids do something that they are not suppose to do. i talk to them and explain to them.  good luck

by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 10:13 PM

All my kids have gotten like that when their schedules get upset, it may have nothing to do with nap time- just a combination of new things, changes in routine and being overtired.



by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 10:15 PM

Maybe you could try stopping her naps and see what happens. My son dosent nap and he dose this from time to time. Just keep convo to a minimum and just keep putting her back to bed. Let her cry if shes going to, like pp said. Shes 4 now and you'll know if something is really wrong. Good luck 

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by on Jul. 6, 2009 at 9:04 PM

personally I don't think that 4 years old is to old for a nap, they still take naps in kindergarten here, and those kids are 5,  I think there naps just shouldn't be as long as a babies.  But I am also having problems getting my son to sleep all night, he is 4.  I am trying to be more stern and make him stay in his bed, but have been guilty of letting him climb in our bed until he goes back to sleep and then moving him back,  He actually slept through the night at 1 month, but as he got older he got to where he was getting up more and more through the night.

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by on Jul. 6, 2009 at 9:21 PM

My son isnt four yet but I just wanted to show some support... :) 


by on Jul. 6, 2009 at 9:42 PM

I hope you have a better night than last!

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by on Jul. 6, 2009 at 9:45 PM

Thank you to everyone who gave me their advice.  Last night she fell asleep after 9:30 finally but that is very late for her.  However, I was SHOCKED when she did not get up until 8:20.  (She ususally gets up between 6:30/6:45).  I let her skip her nap b/c she slept so late.  I am happy to report that tonight she was in bed at 8:15 and never came out of her room.  Tomorrow the naps return.  I pray she continues to nap since I am 33 weeks pregnant and need a daily nap.  Thanks again for all your advice!

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