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porno?

Posted by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:44 PM
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so my hubby has been watching and look at porn.and what gets me is he is doing behind my back.i have caught him watching it on tv at 3 in the morning.he was getting the cable bills be4 so i wouldnt c that he had orderd them.and yesterday i get home and he is all touchy feely and we do it and then i go to get on my laptop mini that i got for my birthday and there is something on here freegonzo and i click on it and there is freaking porno...it makes me feel bad that he would want to look at someone else makes me feel bad about myself and he hides it so it makes me think he wants something else...do u have a prob with ur hubby watching porn?am i just over reacting

by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:44 PM
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jeweldog
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:47 PM

Me and my beloved BF watch it together.  I enjoy it too.  It gets us both hot and gives us ideas... and sometimes we laugh at it.  We keep it where our son won't find them.  Just ask him why he watches it and listen without judgment.  Some men use it as a pressure release of tension.

JADIEBUG
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:47 PM

I don't have a problem with it. It has no effect on my self esteem. Plus think of this way...Is he EVER going to meet any of these porno chicks? NO.


DramaMama1138
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:49 PM

My hubby will watch porn too and look it up on the internet.  Sometimes, I'll go through what he's looking at and tailor our love making to his current trend.  It bothered me, at first, since I thought that since we're married I should be enough woman for him.  Now, I don't care where he gets his appetite from as long as he comes home to eat!

cindinoell
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:50 PM

It doesn't matter what everyone on CM thinks of their SOs watching porn. All that matters is that YOU are uncomfortable with it, which is just fine. I would be uncomfortable with it as well. You only do something behind someone's back if you feel wrong about it, so he obviously knows you wouldn't be comfortable with it, and that's the problem right there. You need to tell him it bothers you.


GOBryan
by Gold Member on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:53 PM

He may not feel that he's doing something wrong, only that she wouldn't approve of it.

Where there's a will; there's a way. He wants to watch so he waits until she's not around to avoid confrontation.

Quoting cindinoell:

It doesn't matter what everyone on CM thinks of their SOs watching porn. All that matters is that YOU are uncomfortable with it, which is just fine. I would be uncomfortable with it as well. You only do something behind someone's back if you feel wrong about it, so he obviously knows you wouldn't be comfortable with it, and that's the problem right there. You need to tell him it bothers you.


firstbaby10
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:54 PM

he will watch it some times and i dont really care. i mean i am the one he is getting into bed with at night not the girls on the pornos right so no it doesnt bother me.

cindinoell
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:56 PM

But the fact that he is hiding it because he knows that she wouldn't approve it wrong. Again, it doesn't matter what any of us think. Her SO should not do something that makes her uncomfortable.

Quoting GOBryan:

He may not feel that he's doing something wrong, only that she wouldn't approve of it.

Where there's a will; there's a way. He wants to watch so he waits until she's not around to avoid confrontation.

Quoting cindinoell:

It doesn't matter what everyone on CM thinks of their SOs watching porn. All that matters is that YOU are uncomfortable with it, which is just fine. I would be uncomfortable with it as well. You only do something behind someone's back if you feel wrong about it, so he obviously knows you wouldn't be comfortable with it, and that's the problem right there. You need to tell him it bothers you.




maryinger
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:56 PM

 you can message me if you want to talk about this. i went through this with my husband and i understand how terrible it makes you feel. he was also lying to me about it... but he wasn't watching movies or doing it online or looking at mags... he was calling 900 numbers and getting pics sent to his phone and using a texting service. was this a problem with him before you two married? this was an addiction my husband had long before we met but i didn't realize how bad it was until after we married. it was so deceitful and almost ended our marriage. but we're now getting past it because he realized it was an addiction and is dealing with it. but i have so many stories and advice so message me if you want!

tdoubleday04
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 1:58 PM

Yes I would have to say that in the beginning this bothered me terribly.  Not that he watched porn but because I usually go to bed before my DH because I have 2 toddlers to take care of that get up very early like 6-8am. I will come downstairs at like 3am sometimes and he is doing his thing and watching porn on the computer.  it makes me then feel like I am not enough because I am right upstairs.  But I do know where you are coming from it makes me feel like shit sometimes.  However there is times when we watch it together I think that is different.  But when he sneaks to do it I hate that. And buy it on cable!  Kick hisbutt thats like 10 dollars a show I'd kill my husband (and have lol) when he orders that because why pay 10 when you have it in the next room.  LOL anyway good luck and just have a talk with him asking him what's up that is what I did.

cindinoell
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 2:00 PM

Thank you for sharing this, even though I'm not the OP. Good for you for sticking with your husband. That's a hard thing to do. I've had similar problems, not as extreme, but I know how it feels to be betrayed like that. I'm happy to hear you and your hubby are getting through it.

Quoting maryinger:

 you can message me if you want to talk about this. i went through this with my husband and i understand how terrible it makes you feel. he was also lying to me about it... but he wasn't watching movies or doing it online or looking at mags... he was calling 900 numbers and getting pics sent to his phone and using a texting service. was this a problem with him before you two married? this was an addiction my husband had long before we met but i didn't realize how bad it was until after we married. it was so deceitful and almost ended our marriage. but we're now getting past it because he realized it was an addiction and is dealing with it. but i have so many stories and advice so message me if you want!



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