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New mom going crazy and need help!

Posted by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 4:15 PM
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I am a first time mom of a six week old baby and feel like I am on the verge of loosing it.  I thought he was slowly working more into a routine, but the past two days he has only slept....along with more than two hours with the exception of one 3 hour nap two days ago.  I am breastfeeding and supplementing with formula thinking that this will help him sleep longer at night, but so far I don't notice anything.  I will be going back to work full time and don't want the hassle of pumping at work, so I need to wean him of breastfeeding during my work hours and then nurse him when I am home, but he has been so fussy lately and not sleeping that nursing tends to be the only thing that consols him which sends me back to square one again.  I don't know what to do or how to help him to not be as fussy which is driving me nuts!  I don't want to completly give up the nursing either as I really enjoy it and had originaly planned on only breastfeeding, but that didn't go as planned.  I just need some good advice if anyone has some!

by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 4:15 PM
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by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 4:24 PM

Oh, sweety!  Take a breath, it will be okay.  You are going through the six week growth spurt.  He is wanting to nurse alot to satisfy his growing.  Just nurse nurse nurse and he will calm down.  As far as giving him formula and then nursing after work, you may need to prepare yourself for your milk drying up.  Some women don't, but breastmilk is on a supply and demand basis.  If you don't pump at work you are telling your body you don't need that milk so it will lower supply.  If that is still your decision, your the mama, just know that it can happen.  If you want to be succesful at b/f, pumping at work really isn't that big of a deal.  It can be a little time consuming, but from set up to finish it would only take me about ten minutes, once I got the hang of it.  If you do decide to stick with it try the group for breastfeeding moms.  They have tons of great advice for you.  Right now nursing is going to get your baby the most comfort.

by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 4:31 PM

 it could be his tummy not adjusting to the formula. if his tummy isnt adjusting hes not going to sleep well

My daughter has autism but she can laugh, cry, and love just like yours. she may never dress herself but she can go to college and become a dr.  she may never make friends her own age but shes my friend for life. and please if u ever get the chance to meet my daughter, stop looking at her like shes a brat, she cant help her stairs or attitudes u can help urs. get to close u might get bit but it wont give u autism. do yourself a favor look it up. 


by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 4:34 PM

Sometimes it takes up to 3 months to get them into a routine...don't give up! :)

I can understand the feeling of losing it.  When my son was about 2 months old, I remember him crying for 2 solid hours and I thought I was going to go insane.  I handed him off to my mil and cried myself for awhile! As for naps...he didn't sleep more than 15 minutes at a time until he was 3 months old.

I was just thinking about a couple of things:

1- fussiness.  Have you tried the mylicon gas drops?  If he's fussy, it could be that his tummy hurts.  I used to give my son the drops in between when I'd burp him (like when switching between breasts or between every 2 ounces on a bottle, etc.).  That helped a whole lot.   Also, does he cry when you lay him down after eating?  It could be an acid reflux thing if he's got something coming back up on him.  If he's got big block sections of crying time it could be colic.  If that's the case, send me a message and I'll pm you with a recipe we got from out doc.

by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 4:39 PM

Ok, here's a few ideas for you: switch bottles. It could be that he's getting to much air from the bottles you're using. I use the Playtex Nurser drop-in's, and they work like magic for us.

Secondly, is it possible that he has gas? Or is allergic to something you've eaten lately? Or something in his formula? Try giving him some mylicon drops. If he has gas, they will help him get it out. If that doesn't work, look at your diet the last couple days. Have you had alot of milk? Strawberries? Oranges? Garlic? Rice? Wheat? Eggs? Nuts? Milk, rice, wheat eggs and nuts are common early-life allergies (meaning they're likely to be outgrown) So you may need to cut them out of  your diet for a little while. Also, strong flavors can pass through your breastmilk, and maybe your son doesn't like that particular taste?

Thirdly, try bringing him to bed with you and letting him nurse overnight. I'm not talking all night, but whenever he wakes up and isn't wet/dirty, nurse him. This may take some time to get used to, but it works VERY well.

I am a young, breastfeeding, self-weaning, part-time cosleeping, hugging, kissing, spanking when necessary, TV-free Mommy to a handsome little 18 month old and wife to the man I love... and I wouldn't change ANYTHING! That's me in a nutshell.
by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 4:51 PM there anything I can eat while breastfeeding? :) 

I have tried the mylicon drops but so fare haven't noticed anything.  I also do nurse in bed, but I don't do it when my husband there.  Usually when he leaves early in the morning I bring my son in with me.  I would love to solely breastfeed and am aware that my milk will dry up, but I get kinda stressed out and would hate to get to work and not be able to pump.  Also, I am a letter carrier for the USPS and would have to pump in my vehicle so that was a HUGE concern of mine.  I have been pumping some during the day, but it just gets so time consuming!  I just don't know what to do and I have such a lack of sleep that I can't think straight.  I am pretty sure he doesn't have colic b/c it isn't huge blocks of crying and it's not always at the same time each day, though it tends to happen more often in the evening. 

by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 9:56 PM

Call the local hospital maternity ward and see if they have a lactation specialist that can help you out with a nursing diet.  She may have some ideas for you there. 

If the mylicon drops haven't helped and you don't think it's colic, it could be acid reflux.  Does he cry a whole lot after eating (especially if you lay him down within a half hour?) Check with your pediatrician.

by on Aug. 12, 2009 at 10:26 PM

This is the same thing my daughter done. the doctor said it was acid reflux and mild colic. You switching from breast to formula is prolly not helping if it is the same problem. try for a while of not laying down to b/f and after he is done eating leave him sitting up even if he is asleep for atleast fifteen minutes and see if that helps i know it did with my daughter...but i would recomend you trying a can of Nutramigen(Enfamil) with lipil.. the cheapest place to get it right now is Walgreens..its for colic and fair warning it STINKS!!! like cat food stinks lol and his poop well lets just say you will need a second diaper until he gets used to it but!!! i highly recomend you try it and if there is no change in three days form the formula and sitting him up then call your doctor and they will listen to his tummy and they can tell if it is acid reflux my daughter is now on her second type of acid reflux med. and it seems to be doing the trick.. and remember there is NO shame in askin grandma to take him or come over so you can catch up on atleast 6 hours of sleepGOOD LUCK

by Gold Member on Aug. 12, 2009 at 10:30 PM

Ok, do realize that if you do not pump while at work, it may effect your milk supply. AND ..... no a new born is not going to sleep longer through the night with formula. They still need to eat every 2 to 3 hours. He might be gassy. Have you tried the Gas drops ?? Or it could be the formula upsetting his stomach. Have you tried swaddling him at night ? GL hun, we all have been through it.


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