I was hoping you could all give me advise on what to do with my son. I am due with another baby in Oct/ Nov and my son loves to act like He's the baby. He'll go around saying, "Mommy, hold me," "Goo goo gaa gaa," "I'm a baby boy" etc. and he wants a lot of attention for it. At first I thought it was cute, but it is getting old now. I'm not sure if it's jealousy with the baby coming or if it's having interest in what babies are like. But I want him to be happy that he's a Big Boy. I've tried telling him he's not a baby and pointing out why it's great to be big. I've tried saying, ok if you're a big boy then you have to crawl and use baby talk and not play with cars and action figures, but just baby toys, etc. I think that makes it worse. LOL. I guess it might not be a big deal, but do you see what I'm saying. I just want him to act like himself now so that when the baby comes he is acting like the big brother and not a second baby. It's starting to drive me crazy. Do I ignore it, do I play into it, do I tell him to stop?? What would you do/ what have you done with your kid?? Thanks!!
He might be afraid that when the baby comes, you won't love him anymore. So by being a baby he thinks you will still love him. You might try letting him know how much you are still going to love him and maybe let him help with setting up baby stuff or getting things ready for the baby. He can draw pictures for the baby's room or let him take pictures for the baby... etc. If he feels like he won't be forgotten, he will no longer feel the need to be a baby again. Good luck and I hope i've helped you some.
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Aww, I didn't think of it that way, thinking he might not be loved anymore. Thanks, I will try to keep him involved in getting ready for the baby and also take time to show him I love him. I like the drawing pictures idea, hadn't thought of that. Thanks!
Quoting jeweldog:
He might be afraid that when the baby comes, you won't love him anymore. So by being a baby he thinks you will still love him. You might try letting him know how much you are still going to love him and maybe let him help with setting up baby stuff or getting things ready for the baby. He can draw pictures for the baby's room or let him take pictures for the baby... etc. If he feels like he won't be forgotten, he will no longer feel the need to be a baby again. Good luck and I hope i've helped you some.
That's what I'm here for... let me know how it's going.
Quoting ConnersMom03:
Aww, I didn't think of it that way, thinking he might not be loved anymore. Thanks, I will try to keep him involved in getting ready for the baby and also take time to show him I love him. I like the drawing pictures idea, hadn't thought of that. Thanks!
Quoting jeweldog:
He might be afraid that when the baby comes, you won't love him anymore. So by being a baby he thinks you will still love him. You might try letting him know how much you are still going to love him and maybe let him help with setting up baby stuff or getting things ready for the baby. He can draw pictures for the baby's room or let him take pictures for the baby... etc. If he feels like he won't be forgotten, he will no longer feel the need to be a baby again. Good luck and I hope i've helped you some.
I agree with other mom has mention.. and also it's normal since he is knows that there would be a new baby around soon.. I work in the day cares..and children that is going to have a little bor/sis seem to acting up right before his mom's due date... or some time right after.. he might be jealous as well after you have your second one..
How wild. My son is doing the exact same thing! I am due Oct 11th. And My son, Asa, goes around saying the exact things you wrote. He also tells me he has a boy in his belly ( I'm having another little boy ). It will be interesting to me to see how Asa reacts once his little brother gets here.
I went through this with my daughter, also. However it started AFTER her brother was born which made it frustrating LOL.
Try doing things like saying "OUR baby"... "When OUR baby comes home, we'll get to ______". That way your son feels like it's HIS baby too, HE is part of it. When you have a baby shower, etc, try to get him something special also, so he doesn't think the baby gets everything (we ran into that problem a LOT). When my son was born, I also bought my daughter a stuffed animal from the gift shop and told her that her little brother got it for her because he loves her so much.
Another great thing for ALL kids is to get a baby doll. Especially when the baby comes. Sometimes kids get TOO into the helping and cause problems. So if you get your son a little boy doll with diapers, bottle, etc. he can take care of a baby too!
And when baby comes, if you're still having problems you can point out that "Baby has to take lots of naps, because that's what babies do. Oh, you're a baby? Then you need a nap too!"
The doll and the nap thing worked wonders for my daughter LOL (who had just turned 3 when brother came along).
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Thanks for all the great advise! I will definitely be doing all of it!! I like the idea of calling the baby OUR baby. He does have a baby doll that he loves to take care of from time to time. I didn't think of having the baby doll out after the baby comes- great idea! Thanks!
It has started once I have become pregnant. He is very smart for his age and didn't really act like a baby at all before I got pregnant. I'm hoping it is a phase and will pass soon.
Quoting mamakenzi:
Did this just start since you've been pregnant or has he always acted like that?
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- ConnersMom03
on Aug. 20, 2009 at 1:01 PM