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I hate sex!! *TMI*

Posted by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 1:44 PM
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Ok, that's not entirely true but sometimes I feel that way. My husband and I have been working hard to improve our marriage in many ways...but I believe there is a sex issue. I don't know if it's because I have 3 kids, so when they hit the sack so do I...or if its because I get bored or what. My husband has a rotating shift so most days we are going to sleep at different times. But when he starts kissing me because he wants sex Ill just do it and not enjoy it. I think he gets bored of the same ol thing but i'm also not a very sexual person, so I just like sex the regular way, where he wants to try new things. One thing he wants is Anal, which i will NOT do that, we tried once and it hurt too bad so I stopped him. Sometimes, I'll just go down on him so I don't have to have sex. I get so tired from dealing with kids all day, and I hate the fact that sex has gotten to be like a chore to me, when it's suppossed to be a pasionate act between dh and I. I would love to surprise him with romantic sex, and really get his motor running, I just can't get the energy to enjoy it. A lot of times during sex I'm thinking...ok, when will it be over. What should I do to start enjoying it again?? I mean, i'm only 24!!! I heard that when you get older it's not that important anymore, I don't want the sexual spark between us to burn out completely.

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claytonsmommy12
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 1:51 PM

You and I are in the same boat. I don't really hate sex, but I just don't care to do it as much as we used to. Maybe you can send the kids away with a family member for the weekend just so you can have time to recharge yourself and get the energy where you feel like you'll enjoy it. Also, are you on B/C? I heard from people that after they get on B/C they don't really have that desire like they used to. I don't know if that's actually true and to blame it on B/C, but it could be a cause of it.

maderacaligirl
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 1:55 PM

No B/c here. I need to be and am waiting to get it out of the pharmacy...my baby is only 3 mths old...which is part of the reason I can't get rid of all the kids, but she is not very hard and if I actually got rid of the two older ones, she wouldn't get in the way.  Thanks for the input.

Quoting claytonsmommy12:

You and I are in the same boat. I don't really hate sex, but I just don't care to do it as much as we used to. Maybe you can send the kids away with a family member for the weekend just so you can have time to recharge yourself and get the energy where you feel like you'll enjoy it. Also, are you on B/C? I heard from people that after they get on B/C they don't really have that desire like they used to. I don't know if that's actually true and to blame it on B/C, but it could be a cause of it.


mommyk5
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 2:05 PM

Some days I am just so tired!  And he thinks just because I'm there in bed that I am ready to go.  Hello... I haven't seen or talked to you all day, and when I finally am ready to plop myself down to go to sleep, you want sex?!  I usually do it, and enjoy it, but getting the energy to actually act interested in the beginning is hard.

mamad122
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 2:06 PM

I would also suggest getting someone to take the kids overnight. You won't be so worn out and you will also have the time to put on something nice and make yourself feel sexy, which may go a long ways in how much you feel like sex:) Also, maybe you can't "get into it" b/c you're concerned that you're not on BC? Hope you find what works for you!

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Lauraxox
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 2:08 PM

im on the same boat at u!! wow.. exactlyy the same.. my daughter falls asleep at like 11:30-12:00 am and im soo tired i go straight to bed.. he asks all the time but sumtimes im like im tireddd.. tomorrow.. lol we dont even h ave sex most the same he likes oral but when we do do it its like " grr huri am not even into it when we do stuff.

ilovemyson2002
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 2:11 PM

 i am the same way  every since i had my 2 kids well even before i had my kids never like to have sex  here lately my boy friend been whating sex every day  n some time i just lay there and let him just do it    my kids are 7 n 16 months old

JaydensMommy930
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 2:13 PM

I am sure I am not telling you anything that you do not already know, by the way. But foreplay is the best way to get me ready for sex. I am single now, but when my ex wanted sex, he expected me to just be into it right away...but it's not like a light switch for women!

Does he ever pleasure you manually/orally for a good while before starting the act? Maybe if he made it ALL about you for a while, you would start to feel sexy and turned on and be more in to experimentation. Sex is much more enjoyable when you are warmed up, in my opinon.

maderacaligirl
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 2:19 PM

Yeah, he does that to get me ready, but I don't know...maybe he needs to do it longer so I'm really into it...i dunno. He'll be like, k lets go.while i'm like...i'm not ready yet!!! thanks for the input!

Quoting JaydensMommy930:

I am sure I am not telling you anything that you do not already know, by the way. But foreplay is the best way to get me ready for sex. I am single now, but when my ex wanted sex, he expected me to just be into it right away...but it's not like a light switch for women!

Does he ever pleasure you manually/orally for a good while before starting the act? Maybe if he made it ALL about you for a while, you would start to feel sexy and turned on and be more in to experimentation. Sex is much more enjoyable when you are warmed up, in my opinon.


Janelle-3
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 2:23 PM

I would agree that foreplay is definitely a big key when trying to get in the mood especially after taking care of the kids all day and getting them off to bed. My husband and I are also expecting our 3 child and unfortunately sex is not as enjoyable for me but with foreplay it makes things flow a bit more smoothly. My husband and I are starting to plan at least two parent nights a month in order to help recharge our marriage as everyone knows "a happy marriage leads to a happy family". Good Luck!!

lovetocook64
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 3:36 PM

your not alone,Im 28 and I hate it,in fact it grosses me out,me and dh have 2 kids together and I have no sex drive in fact I could just do without it,he wants to do it like a porn star,move this way and be all flexible,its uncomforble ,

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