Would you urge your child to fight back?

I think it depends. i want my children to be able to stand up for themselves i wouldn't reccomend them to fight. but if that was there only way to stand up then i guess id say go for it. if nothing else works lol

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If they are being hit and the bully will not allow them to exit the situation, yes.  My kids have been taught that if they have been hit "twice", they can do whatever it takes to get it to stop.

I am kinda stuck in this situation. My son keeps getting bullied on the bus. He will not tell the bus driver. He says he does not want to get him in trouble. But he has got to. Friday, the kid took his book bag and would not give it back. My son knows to fight his way out of a fight. Kick punch slap until he can break free and run home to mamma. Or teacher or what ever. I tought my son how to defend himself as lil as 2 years old. I would hope that he would try and talk his way out of a fight before actually fighting. And to tell a teacher. -

I teach to use words, then walk away.  If the bully follows, go straight to an adult.  And you can remove a person's hands from you (or get out of their grip) without hitting back.  So far, I have not *had* to teach to hit back.  I'm not saying it will never happen.  My oldest is in 2nd grade, so we'll see. 

Peace,

Kat

I was severely bullied and encouraged to fight back.

In my situation it was a bad idea. I got in more trouble defending myself then the bullies ever got for torturing me, and it didn't keep kids from bullying me either.

I personally think bullying has become worse because of all the media outlets used to harrass young people. Kids may not be getting beat up as much but they are being harrassed via text message and internet which can be equally damaging.

I also think that parents should be held more accountable for their childrens actions. If you can't get to the kid, get to the parents.

JMO

yes, my kids have been taught to fight back , but they also been told if they pick a fight the have whats comming to them.  they have a right to hit back it they get hit and they can get hit if they hit first.

Growing up I was taught if you get hit you better hit back. My dad always said if you get suspended from school for getting beat up and you don't fight back when you get home your in trouble. I graduated in 2006 and in 2003 they passed a law in the county i live in that if two people are in a fight BOTH people will be arrested even if you don't hit back. I never knew what would happen if i didn't fight back lol probably grounded not sure. But thats just how dad raised all three of us girls you do not back down because if you do everyone will pick on you. I believe thats true because in high school i was in two fights no one messed with me except the 2nd bc the girl was new to school. HOWEVER my dad also said i you get suspended for starting a fight we're grounded for life lol.

I'll be the same way with my kids. DD is almost three and knows how to defend herself. so does my SS whois 5 months younger. their sweet kids but dont get hit over and over and start crying about it they hit back once and say stop then the kid leaves them alone. SO and i both taught that.

It depends on the situation.  My DH, DS and I have recently been having a discussion as to learn how to tell the difference between knowing when to walk away and knowing when to fight.  We have given him different senerios and asked him what he thinks he should do.  He's learning, but its a process.  He hasn't been bullied or anything but he seems to be acting out in anger towards others when he should be walking away.  He rarely gets mad, but when he does watch out and he is strong and older than most of his friends.

oh yes...do to others as they do to you.im sorry but thats how i feel.if you are gonna put your hands on my child then guess what my child will hit back. 

Yes. My kids are taught to wait until they're punched, or shoved, not to lay the first hand. But lay the second hand and lay it hard until the other person learns to leave you alone. But they are not to do it to family.