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Update on Grandma testifying against me in custody! Thanks for your response! This is really therapy for me!

Posted by on Sep. 7, 2009 at 9:06 PM
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  • Well, what a response I got!! Thank you guys. Let me give you a background. I will be 26 this Nov. I am a special education teacher for a very big school corporation about 30 min. from where I live. I am only 15 min. from my ex. My ex is several years older than me. The whole thing is that he is very angry at me. Him and his whole family that are fueling the fire. His mother hated me from day one and the whole time I was part of that family she made my life miserable. She actually saw my brother a few weeks ago and went out of her way to walk past him and asked "Did your sister get any brains yet?" My brother replied, "I stay out of it and I appreciate it when other people do the same." My brother is 20 and going to college and I think he is way more mature than my ex mother in law. I moved in with my boyfriend a few months after separating from my ex, but the previous time before moving out it was two strangers living under the same roof. I tended to my son and made sure he was taken care of and we would do things together. So there was no marriage. I met the love of my life. I always new there was a soul mate out there, but I gave up on that and just thought I guess marriage is miserable and there isn't really anyone out there. I was proven wrong, Mike came into my life and Brenton's life and I have never been happier. I do not regret getting involved so soon, because I am so happy. I could  not imagine my life without him. So there is the background of my side. What has fueled this divorce taking so long, is his bitter family, crazy lawyer that must have filed about 3 or 4 continuences over the course of a year and a half, and my mom's side of the family. My whole relationship changed with them after I moved out. They thought I had this huge affair, which I didn't. They thought there was nothing wrong in my marriage, which they have fully admitted now they saw some of the signs and how my ex treated me in public. But the kicker is that I was raised very religiously and my grandparents just celebrated their 50th anniv. and they do not believe in divorce under any circumstances. In addition, my own parents have been divorced for 15 years and all I have heard is that I am just like my dad and my dad was the one that left my mom. My grandmother comes into play now because she has always hated my dad and my divorce I feel reminded her of all of the heartache of my parents divorce. She completely turned her back on me wrote me a nasty letter, invited my ex over for dinner instead of me, Mike, and my son. She testified that I put other things before Brenton, I rule and discipline authoratatively (which they always critiqued how my dad disciplined me) My grandmother then wrote my exes lawyer a nasty letter thinking she would have no consequencs for that. And my exes lawyer invited her to court. The whole day before court I spend the day at my grandmother's house. Visiting, laughing, and my son was with me. We played and sang songs. We helped my grandmother. There was nothing that she could have saw in that day that was detrimental to my son's well being. And little did I know she would stab me in the back the next day. After she got of the stand to testify she walked past the front of my table and whispered she was sorry! I broke into tears. I was devastated. This has divided my whole family. I am an upstanding citizen, a good teacher, mom, friend, daughter. I have made mistakes but nothing that warrents me only having my son 4 days a month. I don't care about the money or the divided assets. This whole weekend my son continues to say mom, I miss you. Don't leave me, I don't want you to go away. These are words that will sting me forever. I will fight until the end. I have no money after the first round of divorce so now I have two weeks to get $2500 for the appeal, but I will find a way. God always provides and I will never let someone take my son away or paint him a bad picture of his mom. So there is the whole background and story! I would love your comments! Have a blessed Labor Day!

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