Have you had "The Talk"?

my and hubby had the talk before we were even a couple ..backstory we started out roommates i was dating someone that he lived with and i moved in my ex had a son that he pretty much left in the care of me and now hubby we we actually talked about how we would parent this child since the ex was so not wanting to be aprt of things at the time ...so we pretty much were on the same page way before we had any children of our own ..and the ex now is a better father i think bc of my and hubby

We agree for now. When they become teenagers, we'll probably clash because of the differences in the ways we were raised. But, we've decided to waiit until the time comes to discuss it. We may both feel differently by then, plus we'll know our own kids.

This was one thing we talked about before we ever got pregnant. We were for the most part on the same page so it was pretty easy. We were raised differently as teenagers so we'll cross that bridge when we get there.

We discussed family, kids, money, all that before we got married.  We are lucky that we have the same parenting styles. 

Oh we've got a truck load of differences in parenting and in household lifestyle...but we always find a compromise in the end.

Ellen has daddy under her control as well but yet she knows that when mommy steps in everything is serious. She tries to ask him for things like not taking a nap or eating junks right before meals....and he's done so in the past. I lectured him about it and after a few wrong moves, he got smart and told her that she needs to ask me too..."If mommy says OK then OK". Viktor is still young but he learns quick from his sister....we'll need to see about how slick he will be.

I am the "Disciplinarian" of the house and most rules are set by me because I am with the children 24/7. Daddy is the "Nice Guy" cause he's out working and when he's home it's "Playtime". We've had our arguments but I've let him stay with them for a whole half-day once and he finally got a taste of how things would be if he let them do whatever they wanted, result was "He was exhausted, stressed out and the house looked like war zone". After that, he usually tries to go by the rules I've set.....but of course my rules are bendable according to the situation. Like bedtime doesn't have to be 8:30 on the dot...weekends are flexible.

Well we dont pay a lot of attention to that LOL. I just say something and he follows me, he say something I follow him. If we dont agree we talk good and bad consequences and we make a choice. I'm strong with my kids and he is soft but in some occasions we exchange moods LOL. We do good I think. I like to go with the flow.

imikimi - Customize Your World!

imikimi - Customize Your World!

we never had "the talk" but we have similar parenting styles. he is shorter on patience than me, which means he tends to get fed up easier, but in general we are both just laid back parents. not sure how that will change as they get older. we were raised very differently, and i think we should try and do somewhere in between the extremes of what we were raised.

Oh one of the dreadful talks... No we never had the how to parent the kids talk and for the most part we're okay. However there are  times where I see the differences in approach and I strongly disagree with how he is doing something. He rarely disagrees with what I do. I guess cause I'm the mom. However if there is something I disgaree with I do try and explain to him (out of kids' earshot) why I would have done things differently. We were raised VERY different so he understands our approaches will clash and sometimes we do also. We're pretty laid back parents also however there are certain things with me that are non-negotiable and he knows what they are and why. We'll see how this plays out when they're teens.

we didnt have that talk, no.

but we seem to pretty much agree on everything anyways.