Babies having babies! How do you do it?

i have no idea..what a touchy subject. i hope/pray i don't have to go thru this w/ my DD..

well my parents raised me to beilive you shouldent have sex before marriage..i was 18 when i got pregnant with my daughter out of high school egaged and in college

i thought my dad was going to murder me... my mom was the oone that made me take a test. my dad didnt talk to me for three days...

but im going to talk to my kids about waiting...but also have them be informed on birth control. let them know that its really for married people but if they are going to do something i dont aprove of to be safe about it,.

and i hope im close enough to my kids at that time that they know they can tell me anything

i have no clue, i was a teen mom got pregnant @ 14.. sorry no help

Maybe just stick to the basic talk about NOT having teenage sex and leave out the rest. If you show her every day how much you love her I think she'll respect your wishes yet KNOW that you'll always love her, etc. I kinda wonder if telling her all the other would maybe encourage her, in the back of her mind. But I don't know... I don't know your daughter. =)

I agree. I probably would not tell her "Hey, if you get knocked up...I'll totally help you out!" haha. I just wonder because if she's like I was as a kid (and an adult actually) I think up all kinds of hypothetical situations to bug my mom with. lol.  I believe this question came up, and my mom said "I  would be very disappointed in the choice you made and you would be taking full responsibility in caring for the baby. But at the same time, you are my baby so I  would help you where I  could in terms of  finishing school. But you would WORK for it; wake up with  the baby, study, have a job, do chores to pay for my babysitting, etc..."

Perhaps it was simply my teenage laziness that said "Wow, NOT going there!"

I have no idea what I'll say to my daughter about sex before marriage, teen sex, etc. I got pregnant at 15 as a sophomore in high school and had a miscarraige. I got pregnant again at 17 and had my daughter at 18. I don't regret it but I don't want it to happen to my DD. I won't say that I "missed out" on anything but the plans I was making for my life have definitely changed. I want my daughter to be able to do the things she wants to do. Right now I have no idea what I'll say to her, but when that time comes I hope we have a close enough bond that she'll understand what I'm saying and where I'm coming from and know that I will never disown her or force her to do anything she doesn't want to do.

i started having sex the end of my senior yr and i was 17 almost 18, i got pg at 18 not by choice but not an accident either (cant take bc and allergic to condoms, lucky me) but the only thing that stopped me from starting earlier is bc i was afraid of it, i seen all my friends getting pg and guys using them, so i was like hell no not me if all you want it sex move on..but i had an extremely open relationship with my aunt who i happened to live with and she always told me she would never tell me not to do it bc i would do it if she wanted me to or not, she is still my best friend and i tell her everything to this day...the best thing is having an open relationship with her and gaining that trust.

as a mother of two boys i think that this issue should also include boys.  i feel the same way as you.  i don't want them having sex as teenagers, i'd rather they wait until marrage, but at the same time i want them to know that i support them 100%.  if they ever get a girlfriend pregnant i want them to know that i won't disown them for it or kick them out of the house.  i would deffently want them to be a "man" and take responsiblity for their baby.  it's a toughy.

As a mama to two little girls... i just can't imagine having this talk... but someday, we are going to have to face it.

I was afraid to tell my parents, at 27 years old, that I was unmarried and pregnant.  My mother didn't speak to me for 3 months after I told her.  She refused to help throw a shower with my sister, and refused to show up until the day of.

I know that my mother is religious, and it broke her heart that I was unmarried and pregnant, but I was not unable or unfit to care for a child... i had a good job, an apartment, and lived with the father of my child... but she STILL made me feel like i was 12 again...

I hope that my girls know that they can come to me with ANYTHING.  I don't think that mentioning little things here and there is going to encourage them... but say... a movie comes on where a girl is young and pregnant... it could spark a few comments like "wow, she really has her work cut out for her", or "that girl made a mistake not telling her parents, they could have offered her support and helped her work through her options"...

i was pregnant at 17, miscarried at 18... i never told my parents, they still do not know and i'm 30. 

i don't know that i would sit down and have a "talk" about it... but you could bring up other kids at school (if they are preggers) and talk about what their families are doing or NOT doing to help them... that's kinda what I plan on doing... now that could really backfire on me if my girls would happen to be the first... but in all honestly i'm hoping they are at least 21 before they have kids!

my mother has always been truthful with me and my sisters and she told me that every action even if it feels right can can consequences that it is always better to wait until you find the one..and i did and then i got pregnant and i told her that i was getting married  then she told me that just because i was pregnant that it was not the end of the world and that i didn't have to get married just because i was pregnant that if i was going to get married to make sure that it was because we loved each other...and i will just be honest with my kids and let them know how to protect themselves from diseases and let them know that i will always be there for them I might just try to scare them to death with statistics..