Spin off of my last post***Getting your first period
I saw a few women comment on the awkwardness of the way their moms handled the situation, so now I have to ask...how did YOUR mom handle it? Or dad? And how do you intend to do things differently with your daughter? Or will you carry on a nice tradition your mom started?
For my story...it's pretty basic. I told her I started through a letter because I knew if I told her face to face her first inclination would be to get all sappy and "do you wanna talk about it?" which is good for some things, but I am NOT a real sappy kind of person so I knew that would make me more uncomfortable. So she wrote me a little note back saying "I understand. Just get me if you need me" and she let me stay out of school the next day to make sure I knew how often to change the pad and to get used to it so I didnt' end up leaking in class. And that was pretty much it. I had already been educated on the why, how, what, and all that of the matter by both my mom and school...so it was really just a matter of when it would happen.
My mom was great about explaining everything, but it just so happens that I was visiting my dad at my grandmother's house when it happened - on Christmas Eve! I was so embarrassed that I didn't want to tell him and I wanted to go home to my mom and he couldn't figure out what was wrong. I called my mom in the middle of the night and she told him and he brought me home. I feel silly thinking that my dad wouldn't have understanded now, but at the time it was traumatic. Hopefully I will be there for my daughter like my mom was....
My mom just gave me what I needed. I had already been through growth and development so I didn't need more help than that. She told EVERYONE in the family though even though I asked her not to. I was 11 so I was embarrassed LOL.
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My mom wasn't in the picture while I was growing up. I lived with my dad. I started really late one night. I went next door and told my step mom at the time I thought I started my period. She went to the store and got me what I needed. No one every explained anything.
I plan on sitting both my girl down when they get to that age and explain what is going to happen so that when it does they aren't scared like I was. I am also going make sure they know they can come to me when it does happen.
My mom worked full time (single) and I had 2 siblings. We had hectic mornings and she was always grumpy. So while changing for school and hearing "Hurry up!" or We're gonna be late!" or "Where are my socks?" or "Where's the toaster?", I noticed blood in my underwear. I nervously called out "Mom?" and got a "WHAT?!" response. I told her I was bleeding. She sighed and made that face when you know you're gonna be late for sure so you stop bothering with rushing. I was nervous about her being angry at me for making the morning take longer. I wasn't afraid of the period itself..... til I discovered cramps =(
I plan on discussing that part of biology before it happens to DD and hopefully it won't happen on a bad morning. LOL
My mom took me to the grocery store and explained the difference between all the pads and tampons and such. She also said that since I was a virgin, which she got all panicky about and asked me and got all teary eyed in the store about it if I still was, !!!!! , that I couldn't use tampons yet. Then she told the checker that I started my 'journey into womanhood'.
Yah. Small town, gossipy mother.
Quoting rlemde:
Then she told the checker that I started my 'journey into womanhood'.
Yah. Small town, gossipy mother.
Wow. I think I would have died right about then.
My mom may have told people...her sister or somebody and I know she told my dad so he could bring home extra pads (for some reason that was embarrassing. He came in with two enormous bags! I think my mom and I have always started at the same time, so she had hers too). Luckily, whoever she told didn't mention it to me!
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on Feb. 8, 2010 at 11:29 AM