Crying it out

 u can not spoil ur baby. ur baby needs u. this is the time they are getting to know u, building trust and feel safe with u. hold u baby, 3 hours at 5 weeks is normal. its great actually so just give ur baby what they need, her mom

you can try a swing....i know my mum says that's the only way she got any rest cuz me and my siblings cried so much. Good luck honey....and my son will only fall alseep while being held (we have to make sure he is out cold before we put him down). you are not alone! :)

She's not spoiled... she's a baby.  They like to be held, that's just the way they are.

Get a sling. Wear her, sleep with her... keep her close and get the rest you both need.   She'll sleep independantly when she's ready to... just now, she's not ready.  She's spent 9 months cradled in your tummy and all she knows is being close to you.  It's normal for it to take time for them to become independant.

All those ideas you had about how babies are supposed to behave?   Throw them out the window... they don't behave anything like our mothers remember or how they show it in the movies.  

Now I feel bad. My fiance and his mom and everyone in his family tells me she's spoiled and to let her cry it out if nothing's wrong with her.

Quoting Deliamay:

Now I feel bad. My fiance and his mom and everyone in his family tells me she's spoiled and to let her cry it out if nothing's wrong with her.

Don't feel bad.  It's hard to be a new mom and get advice from every direction.   I remember when I had my first, I held him constantly... because he wanted me to and everyone said I'd spoil him.  Then he hit about 7 months and screamed every time I walked out of the room and I thought "they were RIGHT!  I spoiled him!".   Turns out it's a normal developmental milestone that all babies go through and he got over it in a few weeks.

Remember: You can't spoil a baby/child with love.  You can only spoil them with THINGS.  When's shes 3 and screaming in the store because you won't buy her a new doll... yea, just let her cry.  

Right now, though, her needs INCLUDE giving her whatever she wants... because she's not old enough yet to want something she doesn't need.   If she's crying, there's something wrong with her whether it's an obvious phyical need, or something you can't figure out for the life of you.   SO... hold her, give her all the attention you can because she's going to grow fast and be running away from you very soon.  Enjoy every second and tell everyone else to shove it.

Oh my gosh dont feel bad!! We have a 4 month old and I feel like you cant spoil them even at that age. I rock her to sleep still. People may disagree with that but she is my baby and she wants to feel close. So hold her, rock her whatever she wants right now.

My son did the same thing, he would cry unless we were holding him. And I finally took him to the doctor and we found out he is alergic to regular Formula and has to use a Alimentum. Anyway it helped a lot.

Have you tried to swaddle your baby? Wrap her up tight in a blanket or even an actual swaddler. (Babies R Us sells them) They worked great for my DD. She slept almost through the night when we put her in them. But again, try the swing, or even your bouncy seat if you have one. We had one that vibrated and DD liked that. If she wants to be held then hold her. Right now she would not be considered spoiled. lol Good luck!

I did go through the exact same thing...I just held her and tried laying her down occaisionally... Sometimes she would let me...others not so much. Pretty soon she will be squirming in your arms when you try to hold her! Thats what mine is doing now! Im like...I remember when you used to just lay still in my arms... Just hold her and enjoy it  :) You can't spoil her yet! And I dont do cry it out...It just hurts my feelings to leave her laying there all sad when all I have to do is rock her and kiss her for a sec and she goes back to sleep... She won't always need it but for now she does soo.....im giving it to her.

I completely agree with this!!  You can't spoil a newborn - it just isn't possible.  Next time they tell you that, plug your ears and start singing "LALALALALALA"  :)  Seriously. 

Some things that can help - - being swaddled, a swing, a bouncer with a vibrate button, or, my personal favorite (and my lifesaver - my son was a major "you-must-hold-me-all-the-time" kind of kid), a sling or wrap so that you can wear the baby - they feel comforted and loved, you have your hands free. 

The good news - It does get better.  My 2 kids were polor opposites as babies - my daughter was always fine being laid down, while my son would have NOTHING to do with it.  Now, as toddlers, they are both independant as can be - - it is my firm belief that giving them the attention they required as infants helped this to happen.  They felt secure all the time because their needs were being met.  A child who is left to cry on their own is not having their needs met, and is more likely to grow up to be clingy and/or distrustful. 

Quoting LeanneC:

Quoting Deliamay:

Now I feel bad. My fiance and his mom and everyone in his family tells me she's spoiled and to let her cry it out if nothing's wrong with her.

Don't feel bad.  It's hard to be a new mom and get advice from every direction.   I remember when I had my first, I held him constantly... because he wanted me to and everyone said I'd spoil him.  Then he hit about 7 months and screamed every time I walked out of the room and I thought "they were RIGHT!  I spoiled him!".   Turns out it's a normal developmental milestone that all babies go through and he got over it in a few weeks.

Remember: You can't spoil a baby/child with love.  You can only spoil them with THINGS.  When's shes 3 and screaming in the store because you won't buy her a new doll... yea, just let her cry.  

Right now, though, her needs INCLUDE giving her whatever she wants... because she's not old enough yet to want something she doesn't need.   If she's crying, there's something wrong with her whether it's an obvious phyical need, or something you can't figure out for the life of you.   SO... hold her, give her all the attention you can because she's going to grow fast and be running away from you very soon.  Enjoy every second and tell everyone else to shove it.