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Scheduling

Posted by on Mar. 21, 2010 at 10:37 PM
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Alright -

I'm new at this motherhood thing.  I'm college educated, speak more than one language and do my own taxes.  But I know nothing and can find no good sources on scheduling.  (Not true.  I could ask my mother, but who wants to do that?)

I have a two month old, breastfed son who basically has me at his mercy.  I read that he should be taking at least two big naps a day, but we're so far hit and miss there.  I know he needs to sleep and it's not for lack of trying that we fail.  I keep thinking that if we had a schedule things would go much more smoothly.  But how does one impose such a thing.  It isn't as though if he's hungry and crying I'm not going to feed him.  Can we nudge him into napping and feeding at roughly the same time every day?

Advice on what a schedule would look like and how to get us there would be welcome.

Thanks,

Seabass

Posted by on Mar. 21, 2010 at 10:37 PM
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Honeybun09
by on Mar. 21, 2010 at 10:40 PM

I'm not sure about at two months. At two months, I still did everything on demand with food and sleep. Good luck!


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marywilliams
by Gold Member on Mar. 21, 2010 at 10:50 PM

I wish I had some really good advice.  Caroline was never on a set schedule - she pretty much ate when hungry and slept when tired.  We did get her used to sleeping in her crib, in her room.  I bought light blocking curtains which also kept the room slightly cooler.  We did have some issues when she was a month old - she had severe reflux and once we got that sorted out, things were much better.  There were times that she slept in the swing and we weren't about to move her!  I don't know if I would worry so much about being on a schedule.  Just try to get your little one to sleep when tired.  Caroline has gotten herself onto a pretty good schedule all on her own.

She did not take the two big naps until she was older.  She would take lots of little naps, as long as she was getting the combined hours of sleep she needed, we didn't fight it.  If it gets to the point that you are concerned, ask the doctor.  We're now working on trying to get her down to one nap per day since she's wanting to stay up later.

Good luck and I hope you get some sleep too!

PhilsBabyMama
by on Mar. 21, 2010 at 11:02 PM

It is pointless to try to schedule your baby.  He is still so little.  Let him sleep when he's tired, eat when he's hungry, etc.  He will let you know when he needs to sleep.  Even if you got him on a "schedule" it wouldn't last very long, as their eating/sleeping needs change frequently at that age.  Once you get into a routine your baby will hit a growth spurt and throw the entire thing off.

Just follow your baby's cues.  He knows exactly what he needs.

Here is some info you may be interested in:

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070700.asp

MixedCooke
by Gold Member on Mar. 22, 2010 at 1:04 AM

A baby that age should nap every 2 to 3 hours.

prettyinpink2
by on Mar. 22, 2010 at 6:55 AM

my little guy is clock work when eating..napping not so much.  He's bottle feed and eats every 3 hours and takes 5 oz.  I started in the hospital feeding him every 2.  I don't wait until he cries

lyndallsmom
by on Mar. 22, 2010 at 7:17 AM

I have two girls and nursed both (still nursing my youngest at 17 months!) and neither one was really good at napping at that age. They maybe tooks some cat naps here and there but not on a regular basis.

Another poster replied that she pretty much still fed on demand which is what I did. I just followed their lead. My first was probably around 5 or so months old and started napping in her swing. Eventually she was taking two naps a day, one mid morning and one late after noon (4pm ish) for a couple of hours each time.

My youngest didn't start napping until around 6 or 7 months old and she only takes 1 nap a day, usually around noon for 2-3 hours.

I never forced their schedule, they set them all on their own. I wish I had more specific advice for you. They will sleep better as they get older. I know it isn't easy but try to hang in there.

 

Kim

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busymom3910
by Member on Mar. 22, 2010 at 11:37 AM

I tried doing a schedule with mine and it never worked. My now 2 1/2 year old would drive me crazy. She would take power naps (15 min. long) never got anything done. My 10 month old now is special needs and we have PT, OT, and feeding therapy and this schedule helps me to keep everything on track but eating and sleeping is not one of them. They never eat and sleep when you need them too.

Good luck. Give your little one a couple of months and it will become easier for napping and all.

KylersMom8-16-7
by Bronze Member on Mar. 22, 2010 at 12:25 PM

You have to let your baby set the schedule, its just easier that way.

LeanneC
by on Mar. 22, 2010 at 12:33 PM

Some kids have a basic schedule early on, some don't.

I don't know many babies who will do two big naps a day at 2 months, though... even my very predicatable second child was taking 3-4 naps at 2 months.... which was better than my first who would sleep for 20 minutes every couple of hours.

Basically... just continue following his lead.  Sometime between 6-12 months he should start nudging towards taking 2 naps a day and then you can pretty much predict when he will be getting sleepy and want to lay down and have a basic schedule... but it still needs to be flexible to allow for growing and other phases.

Feed when hungry, put to sleep when sleepy and ignore the clock.  The clock is your worst enemy right now, just don't even pay attention to it.  They change soooo much in the first year that trying to make sense of the madness will drive you crazy.   I did it the first time around and that combined with sleep deprivation nearly DID drive me crazy... I'm amazed I'm not in the loony bin right this second and they actually let me have another one!  lol.  

JoeyJrsMomma
by Silver Member on Mar. 22, 2010 at 5:51 PM

The resource I used was at babycenter.com. There are a few different types of schedules/routines that you can get them on. Some are parent led some are baby led and others are a combination of both. We did the combination of both and put our son on a routine, but not a schedule. We fed him on demand, but did the same routine daily so that eventually his routine fell into ours.

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